How do you compliment or show appreciation?

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If I think of something that's complimentary to someone I'll say it. For example, if someone at work makes me laugh on a bad day, I'll think (and say) something like "that's one thing I really like about you, you've got such a great perspective". It might make that person feel good, but it's also a mini-triumph for me, to be able to identify this positive trait in someone. who says Aspies are oblivious?

Through smiles and shows of excitement. I can be very expressive in real time. I think aspies tend to do the opposite though and go for a more verbal approach.

I think a more normal way to compliment when you're a girl to a girl is to instead to go something like this, "Where'd you get your shoes at? I like them." Just saying you like them sounds a bit abrupt and they probably feel awkward as there isn't a conversation starter.

this is a good point! I sometimes (when I remember) try to see socializing as a game. someone will say something to me and my standard responses are "yes", "no", "ok", etc. but when I have the energy to do so, I'll try to answer with my answer and then some sort of conversation extending add-on that allows them a chance to say something back. Then the ball's in their court, and it's up to them to keep adding to it or to let it end. Sometimes this gets out of hand and I end up feeling uncomfortable, but it's not going to kill me to practice interacting on a semi-regular basis, and who knows, I might learn something.

I don't compliment people, really.
If I like something, I just admire it and google where I could get it later.

But I've never told anyone they were pretty or anything of the sort because I have always felt they would take it the wrong way.
People seem to immediately get the impression that I'm not a very normal girl.