I can not do due to my Aspergers......

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What the heck, I'll answer based on ssjgokus response:

I can't..........

get a social life
eat most foods and drinks
really make friends
explain my true feelings
really make small talk
be happy
be normal
get on well with many people
stop hating certain people
can't see a real future
get out of my depression(the aspergers makes it a million times worse)
understand what makes some jokes funny
go to parties
stop caring about how others view me
find anyone that truly understands
trust anyone
stop obsessing
show appropriate body language
stay foccused for long on things I only NEED to do
stop giggling at inapproprriate times
control my anger
find an interest in anything. I'm just BURNED OUT!
stop wanting to die
see any hope
be myself
attract people
understand what SOME people call society.
understand the people that INSIST on making this a hell instead of the paradise it SHOULD be.

I cannot stop my obsessive thinking. It gets worse when I am really upset about it.
I tend to regress at times so my traits get bad again I had worked on.
I couldn't get a date in the real world nor get men to ask me out because I didn't understand the rules.

I've just read on a chart explaining Autism symptoms in girls, and it said that we are prone to suffering from side effects from any brain meds. So, I can't even reduce my anxiety level because I have AS. I am stuck with this anxiety forever and ever.

The f**k has having a disability in the brain got to do with my stomach anyway?! !!

I can't do the following

1) Drive
2) Take a bus
3) don't like using cell phones
4) do a job quickly
5) Live on my own
6) find a girlfriend
7) allow someone to touch me
8 ) cut my hair
9) accept a compliment
10) trust someone
11) walk in a straight line
12) I can't stop being too talkative
13) be happy
14) control my anger
15) ask for a pay raise
16) stop giggling at inapproprriate times
17) make proper eye contact
18 ) I can't tell if someone likes me or not
19) I can't tell if someone is lying to me
20) I can't tell if some one is kidding with me
21) don't know body language
22) can't stop day dreaming
23) I can't feel comfortable around people
24) I can't let people be in my house
25) I can't keep friends
26) work around large loud machines
27) sirens, vibration, strobe lights, and light showing through half open blinds cause me anxiety
28 ) show affection to my parents
29) feel extreme discomfort when someone tries to show me affection
30) I can't take hot temperatures
31) Can't get a good nights sleep
32) Handle Change Well
33) Sometimes I am oblivious of my surroundings ignoring people

Some of the things I can not do due to my Asperger's are:

I can not bring myself to use the phrase "I can't" when describing my potential.
I can not give up practicing to make myself a better person than I was yesterday.

I can't talk about thing's I'm not interested in.

I can do

Become very knowledgeable in a certain area for 6 months to a couple of years.

Analyse every situation.

Spit out facts to people.

Come up with wild ideas.

Live in my own world without leaving the old one behind for too long.

Have a vivid imagination.

Have an artistic ability from a young age and managed to build on it and keep them intact in my adult life.

Can get VERY organised and when offered will organise others.

Buy practical gifts for people or gifts that I know they will like and come from the heart.

Alone most of the time but never lonely.

Can catch a bus though have some difficulties.

Can catch a taxi but need to direct them from the front seat.

Can go into the shops to buy certain things, as long as it's not too crowded.

Cook the same meals.

Clean the house and feed my cats.

Busy myself with several interests a day.

Not get caught up in the emotional dramas of other people.

Go to a concert, less than 6 hours in length.

Offer solutions to a person's problem without showing much emotion.


I can't (or struggle) to do

Have a two way conversation.

Be in a supermarket for very long.

Easily wear different clothes.

Adjust to change.

Socialise for more than a few hours a day.

Drive a car.

Convince an employer to hire me.

Go to a festival.

Swim (has to do with change).

At times cannot make myself meals especially dinner.

Have a balance of knowledge over most common areas. It's either strong in a few areas and lacking in others.

Be in a crowded restaurant without getting sensory overload.

Console another person.

Note: Many of my issues are from severe sensory issues and epilepsy and I omitted the epilepsy issues such as severe sensitivity the bright lights, especially flashing and my avoidance of coffee, alcohol and large quantities of sugar.

Things I can't do:
-Multitask
-Think quickly
-control my facial expressions (without thinking about it)
-have a conversation on "autopilot"

...yeah, that's about it.

Things I can do (that others can't):
-recall facts easily
-remember anything important (to me) with almost perfect accuracy
-think outside the box with minimal effort
-live in my own world
-carefully plan everything out

I could go on.

Sure, there are things I struggle to do, but there are only very few things that I absolutely cannot do. I've said it before and I'll say it again, anything is possible if I put my mind to it. I just have to do that.

Things that I can do because of my aspergers:

Be logical and bring logic to help other people.
Remember enormous amounts of information and detail.
Spend time alone.
Know, and stand up for what is right.


Things that I struggle with because of my aspergers:

Spending time with other people for more than an hour.
Have the energy to work fulltime in even a low-skill/low stress role.
Comforting others.
Driving.
Feeling ok. I don't need to feel fantastic, just ok.