People of Aspergers - Do you need to have friends/partner or

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Same.

I didn't vote, since I don't know which to choose.

I have a partner and 1 close friend. That's enough for me. Everything else I need I can get from books, internet/tv or lectures. The 2 problems that I have are two-fold:

1. Dealing with people at my job. That's my major difficulty. I don't get any pleasure from interacting with them.
2. Dealing with my parntner's friends/family. I'm much better with them because I only see them once every 2 years or so.

I need human contact. I was brought up in a large family (6 of us all together) so there would be always someone around. Now, fast foward to now I practically live by myself on my off days from school. Being alone for a long period of time makes me kinda crazy :S A small house party is most ideal way for me to socialize, I like meeting other people

Yes I do have a need for friends, Id say ideally just a few close friends that I can talk to and do things with. Things get rather lonely even though I can be by myself for periods of time.

I voted sometimes, but the truth is I've never lived on my own before. I went straight from my mom's to my husband (then boyfriend).

I don't get lonely very often. It's always been that way for me. In fact, the only time I truly felt alone that I can remember is when I was suffering from PPD after having my first child. It was pretty silly, though. My husband was there... he just had to work.

I don't desire it but will talk or hang out with those who ask of it, or just happening to be standing near me.

When I was in a relationship, I felt the same way. I mean, to be real close. But, I had my alone time, and if I couldn't have one for some reason, that was a terrible experience.

It's interesting that most people here value solitude, being alone, but also like to have a few (or one) friend(s). Without friends, most of us get lonely. I'm no exception.

I voted 'yes', because I don't know where I'd be without my husband, on a practical and emotional level. We met when I was 16 and married 5 years later. He deals with the finances and I just need to have a small amount of spending money in my purse. Although I'm a full-time mum, we do the weekly shop together.

As for friends, I have one very good friend and would hate to lose her - it took me over 30 years to find her. And I've become really friendly with a mum whom I meet at my daughter's drama class and we talk for an hour and go out for a walk. I'm sure this is a friendship in it's infancy. Other than those two, I don't really mind whether I have them or not. I've never carried friendships from one location to the next. I mean I never kept in touch with any school friends, after leaving, I made new friends at university, then left them behind when I started work. I'm no longer in touch with anyone from work. I say 'friends', but if we'd truly been friends, I'm sure someone would have made an effort to keep in touch.