How would you react to being told that your kid is an aspie?

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Yeah, I'd be neutral as well.

What is all this "God" business

My son is a diagnosed Aspie. We already knew he was an Aspie long before he was diagnosed so nothing changed with the diagnosis. He is still the same son I had before the diagnosis.

Now you need to ask the question "How would you react to being told your kid is low functioning autistic?"

My answer's the same.

Yeah, I'd love my kids no matter what. They're my kids, I brought them into the world. I am going to make damn sure they're in this world to stay. And I'll make sure they're happy no matter what difficulties or gifts they have.

Don't choose it if you don't like it? There's other options.

This ^^.

I would not be disapointed and I'd do my best to make his/her life easier than mine. This just in case I have kids which I am not planning at the moment.

Well, I guess one should accept difference and love kids even though NTs.

That really is the question. Followed directly by "would you answer honestly to this question" after it. My best friend has a kid with low functioning autistim. It's tough. I honestly would be disapointed in myself, and realize there is going to be a long road ahead of me and learn lots of patients first. Next would my goal of him becoming a star athlete, the president of the US, or a doctor. Notice i left out rock star unpurpose. Thing is its natural for parents to want to raise a hero, but one that you probly can't hug, where communication is hard if not impossible, and spend lots of money on special schools. so i would probly be disappointed, with the hope that somehow i can figure some system to Upgrade his functioning level. Medium functioning i would be neutral. Low functioning would suck

I would also be disapointed if the kid was normal. A Normal kid wont be as smart.

As for Aspergers.... well my girlfriend had the cutiest response. "You mean he could turn out like you? Your the greatest man i know, that would rock". See i personally am affected by this condition called awesomeness. I honestly have some of my asperger's and autistic traits. If my kids normal, then he wont ever get to the degree of awesomeness. Being able to think in patterns, and work out systems in my head, with the combination of a high IQ, thats has a mind that has the potiential to process info faster because of the way we think. A normal kid couldn't do that, there not wired in the head to do that. Our biggest weakness's are change, over stimuliation, and a love of the repitition. Ill take a few crappy years for the potinetial.

If I never even noticed my son was aspie or just thought he had traits, I think I would be very shocked and surprised and then think "it must be mild then."


If it was obvious, probably neutral. I would just keep teaching him about life and how to adapt. I might be worried at the same time too like what if he gets too difficult and I can't handle it and what will I do about bullies and teachers and the school principal? Of course I'd be dealing with them anyway even if he was NT.

Stupid question, new here. Whats NT mean?

Neurotypical = non-autistic.

I haven't voted as my feelings on the subject are completely individual and I could select a few answers. I'm in the position of knowing that my daughter probably has Aspergers, but having to wait for assessments to take place. People know I'm worried, but I think they think I'm worried in case she has Aspergers. My real worry is that they say she's completely average and I've got it all wrong. Like another poster said, if I didn't even realise she had Aspie traits, I would be horrified at the revelation - I was a bit taken aback when her teacher mentioned her lack of eye contact, but that was before Aspergers had even entered my thoughts. Now, it's quite clear to me (and the others in the family and her teachers) that she has it and she obviously gets most of her traits from me. I just knew very little about the subject until about 6 months ago.

My daughter is a wonderful highly intelligent little girl with a magical love of nature. I suppose her Aspergers is why she has such powerful emotions. She has artisitic talent with an obvious Aspie flair too. Yes, she's a lot of work and has significant concentration difficulties, but if she were to change, i.e. lose the Aspergers, she'd lose that amazing personality and her gifts and I would never want that to happen.

I'd be disappointed that they may have the same difficulties that I've had. Hopefully I'd be better able to provide support knowing what they're going through as opposed to my parents with me.

I think that those are some odd poll choices, truthfully. I wouldn't be happy, but I wouldn't be disappointed, either. I would, however, have a greater understanding of how to help my child because of my own issues & I think I would be a better parent to an ASD child than most neurotypical parents because I would be able to relate to & understand my child in a way they wouldn't be able to.

Since my brother is autistic, I am used to living in a house with an autistic person, so I don't really think one way or another. I do love my brother, and I've come to understand and realise how his mind works. If I met another autistic person, it would probably take a bit of time getting used to, since they're all different. Same as us neurotypicals, we are all different aswell. Before I make a new friend, I have to get to know what they're like first.

But anyway, I wouldn't be disappointed if I have a child born autistic. I will love it, whatever it has. I have a lot of patience and understanding, and I am actually learning more about special needs and stuff like that because I wanted to go into working as a carer or an assistant with special needs children or adults.