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31 May 2011, 9:39 pm

I used to feel somewhat personally responsible for my social difficulties, but recognizing contributing factors that were beyond my choosing (Fundamental personality traits and things like facial regulation and tonality are mostly genetic) and adopting a FTW attitude has taken care of that. (And, no, not "For the win!", even though I have that attitude too, lol. )



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31 May 2011, 9:43 pm

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I know that sounds like I'm a slacker


Your username sounds slacker-esque. :P



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31 May 2011, 9:48 pm

swbluto wrote:
lotuspuppy wrote:
I know that sounds like I'm a slacker


Your username sounds slacker-esque. :P

I'm reflective. There's a difference.

I'm typically the only one who feels I'm a slacker. My friends and family think I can work myself to death.



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31 May 2011, 9:55 pm

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I'm typically the only one who feels I'm a slacker. My friends and family think I can work myself to death.


Odysseus's men weren't being reflective when they ingested the flowers, lol.

Anyway, that contradiction is interesting. My coworkers and teachers feel like I'm a slacker, but I feel like a hard worker. Maybe there's an inverse relationship between the two? Those who work hard often want to work hard and thus feel like they aren't working enough (Thus they think they're a slacker), while slackers are more likely to feel like the amount of effort they're putting in is too much as they'd much prefer doing no work, so it feels like any work they do is 'hard work'. That'd be hilarious if it were true (It probably is.), at least for a large portion of the population.



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01 Jun 2011, 10:44 pm

swbluto wrote:
lotuspuppy wrote:
I'm typically the only one who feels I'm a slacker. My friends and family think I can work myself to death.


Odysseus's men weren't being reflective when they ingested the flowers, lol.

Anyway, that contradiction is interesting. My coworkers and teachers feel like I'm a slacker, but I feel like a hard worker. Maybe there's an inverse relationship between the two? Those who work hard often want to work hard and thus feel like they aren't working enough (Thus they think they're a slacker), while slackers are more likely to feel like the amount of effort they're putting in is too much as they'd much prefer doing no work, so it feels like any work they do is 'hard work'. That'd be hilarious if it were true (It probably is.), at least for a large portion of the population.

It must do with self-perception to begin with. I feel I can be a slacker, and therefore do everything in my power not to slack off. I am realizing that being busy also works as a form of self-medication, and is every bit as intoxicating as drink is (especially if one isn't productive at work).



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02 Jun 2011, 1:37 am

Yes, but rightfully so since I've never accomplished anything. I don't feel as bad since I've come to the conclusion that this is my problem but it's still there.