Do you hate neurotypical self-promoters, or is it just me?

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Self promotion by the barely competent but socially adept was one of the huge reasons I found almost every job I had to be intolerable. There were a few work situations that were rather gratifying though, for me, in a mean way I guess, when after what seemed like a ridiculously long time, others would finally catch on to what BS the situations were.
One waitress job I had, I tried to tell the manager that these two sleazy types were up to something based on the way they worked together, he thought, as men often do, that it was some kind of female jealousy. Months after I quit, I found out that he finally had caught them cheating the restaurant.
A job at a symphony box office, one of the office guys, a really braggy little jerk, repeatedly would run down the sweet little old lady that ran the box office. I finally kind of told him off (it was a part time, temporary job, so what the heck). I let the others that worked in the box office know my feeling of revulsion for the guy. He even tried to keep me away from the other box office workers my last few days there, having me shred and copy things. I went out to smoke, then didn't return to the office, instead went and worked in the box office. Well, a month or so after I left, a former co worker called to ask if I was psychic or something, the man and another employee had been fired for imbezzlement, were caught on camera after being fired, trying to break in (to this day I think him having me copy/shred stuff was part of his plan).
A co worker who slacked off terribly to the point of leaving work for hours (with our supervisor not even noticing), but sure talked a good game, who got promotions and raises based on others' work ended up getting the company in a real bind. It was an insurance company (the big one) and she of course had her coverage through our company. She had lost her license for repeated drunk driving offenses, but because she was an employee, the standard checks on her driving record, that would have revealed this mess, were not done. So, she's drinking, driving w/o a license, gets her car hung up on a railroad track, gets out and stumbles away. Train comes, hits her car, people could have been killed, they discover her loss of license, and know she had been driving the vehicle because there, hanging from the rearview mirror, was her company id/key card.

I could go on for hours, but think this post is already way too long.

Well, sometimes people are just really good at manipulating others, through charisma, through pretending to work when important people are around, through false modesty, through claiming untrue past experiences, through throwing their physical "assets" out there in front of the opposite sex. I've seen it all - and as a rule, I have seen the hard-working people get little in return for their work, while the smarmy, loafing types seize the opportunity to claim responsibility for everything positive going on (but are quick to blame mistakes on other people). Work environments are thoroughly structured in this way, yet at the same time, they will puts forth the rhetoric of meritocracy (and people believe it, too). I think it's important to understand that the world is in fact run mainly by the socially adept, and that physical and logical competence does not always accompany that talent - in fact, usually it does not. If you are an intelligent hard worker, but not socially adept, you will get overlooked, screwed, left behind. It's just what happens, and it is why I am now self-employed. I could not stand all the pretense involved in most kinds of work, so I stopped trying.

That is what I consider to be "the jock attitude" and I absolutely hate such lack of humility with a passion. My favorite AS link (repeated for the umpteenth time below) points out that "Aspies do not like people who express opinions". This is so true with me. The kind of self-promotion that you mention is little more than a strong opinion that one's self is superior to others. Such individuals will be in good company in the next life at a table alongside Adolf Hitler, who was one of the obnoxious examples of self-promotion of all time. While we are at it, take a look at all the advertising that pummels our brains these days. It is all nothing but the "my sh*t doesn't stink" syndrome and I just hate it with a passion whether from individuals, corporations, governments, churches or other groups. It is all a subset though of opinionated ideas. Again, see that wonderful (IMHO... just had to add that pun on my words and opinion) link below:

http://www.wikihow.com/Relate-to-Someon ... s-Syndrome

not just NTs do it, I have seen a lot of people with AS do it too.

Charisma is the poisonous fuel of the psychopath.

You're talking about being phoney, but what makes you think they're phoney? The fact that they brag?

Being a good worker but failing to be a self-promoter is like a company making a great product but never advirtising it.

If people are obnoxious about it, they may need better self-promotion skills. A lack of practice won't help though.