Do you ever get tired after social situations?

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Add me to this list. It's gotten harder as I've gotten older, actually. I'm much better at carrying on a conversation, making eye contact, trying to keep up with all the noises going on... so when I am done/gone I am completely drained, exhausted, and out of patience. I have to be alone in a fairly quiet place to recharge for a while.

I have noticed that if I go to a party, I feel really energized for about 30 minutes after I leave, then I completely crash.

My mom tells me that I am EXTREMELY drained by social situations, because once I told people that I was tired and wanted them all to leave at one of my party's. It's not as extreme as she thinks it is. I was only four when this happened and they were no longer doing activities that I was interested in.

social interaction wears me out. Not just going to party's or things like that, simply going to the grocery store can exhaust me.

I intern at a certain good government group that hosts all sorts of events and gets invited to many more events, usually of the political or legislative sort.

When I started, I went to a couple, but they drained me so immensely I could barely function the next day. I don't go to any anymore, regardless of how good they might be for networking.

Definitely. Plus my sister is so overpowering socially (she's like the opposite of me in that way) that when she even calls me on the phone and talks to me for like a 1/2 hour I'm exhausted when I hang up.

socialising completely wipes me out

Yes. I'm okay at work, most of of the time. But with other social situations, like family get-togethers, dates, phone calls, etc, I can handle them for awhile and then I just need to get away and be left alone.

I have both introvert and extrovert traits. When I'm at a party I seek for interactions, I do it intentionally, but almost every time fail to participate well. I find most parties boring, and after some time, if I see I'm unable to interact, I can get upset about it and leave the party well before it ends. I'm ok with family gatherings. I don't like crowded places but I can deal with them.

In general, I think I'm drained or bored during most of the conversations, particularly the ones that I find compulsory to participate in for some reason.

I don't feel myself drained after such events, maybe just a little.

Yes. I went out with friends on Tuesday night, had a great time and felt I'd performed well socially. Made the mistake of going out on Wednesday night....... People were saying stuff to me and I could barely untangle what they were going on about, so I just sat there like a muppet, unable to keep the conversation going. I felt bored and I felt boring. And these are people I know quite well. Don't know whether it's because they're Aspies (possibly it's harder to keep a rapport going with Aspies, on account of the independent style of thinking). You know the one where you have nothing to say but you say it anyway because you're so sick of keeping quiet? I did that......it must have been so obvious that I was just yattering away for the sake of it. I wish I'd ducked out of it and pretended to be ill.

I get really tired after socializing. I could never go out two nights in a row. I don't go to parties with sleepovers. I can do travelling but only if I'm guaranteed a peaceful and quiet place to rest. If I spend more than a couple of hours intensively socializing I need a day away from everyone and everything to rest and just sleep. So on weekends I usually spend Saturday socializing more or less and I make sure that I have Sunday all for myself.

I always need some alone time after a big social gathering and things like that. I usually end up laid on my bed with the lights off listening to some calming music or just watching whatever is on T.V.
After having a driving lesson, where my instructor just talks to me about any old nonsense, (he is the King of small talk) while I'm trying to control a vehicle, read the road etc etc etc etc. I usually have a little nap when I get home, as I just feel drained of all energy. That's the time when I feel the most socially knackered. I'm fine on a one to one basis with someone who I'm comfortable with and don't have to keep checking on what I say or do before I do it. Even with 2 or 3 other people I'm fine. (As long as I'm comfortable with them) but any sort of family gathering, function event, etc just leaves me feeling a bit wiped out afterwards.

Always. Socializing is like an olympic sport to me - my mind goes on overdrive, and I really have to be mentally alert. I find that I need a break or two throughout the day if I'm socializing a lot.

Depends from numper of people. I can stay some hours with a single person (usually my mom, a friend or my brother). When there are more than other person i stay with them maximum one hour, after i must escape in my bedroom and return to doing things i like.

I do like to get together with people, but too much of it tires me out, especially if I see the same person a few days in a row. Because of this, I limit my social activities to once a week per friend(I only really have 2 close friends who I get together with on a regular basis).

Yep, I am definitely the same as everyone else here. I think of it as this: I have a social battery and every time I have a social interaction with someone, that battery drains just a little bit. Obviously, after spending hours at a party or at work or whatnot, that battery is going to be dead. Then, I go home and play on my ipad, or read or whatever, and I am able to "recharge" that battery. Social interaction/ people/ acting like I know social rules/ etiquette is indeed exhausting.
BTW OP, I love your avatar.

You are SO not alone. I never go to parties unless I know that the host's feelings will be hurt if I don't, so it's only out of a sense of obligation. Every moment I'm there, I'm wondering "When will this be over? How much longer do I have to keep this up, pretending to be interested and with this phony smile plastered on my face, when I'd so much rather be home doing the things I love?" Once it was all so draining that I had to take a nap when I got home.

By the way, are you familiar with Andy Galsworthy? He's a famous artist who spends most of his time alone working on his creations. I watched a documentary about him, and he said, "I feel drained by people." So you see, you are in very good company!