Reaction to a hug?

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I have never liked being hugged by family members or friends, the only exception is from a partner. I feel it to be a massive invasion of my personal space and almost always feel like the person is 'coming onto' me, and found it very confusing when I was younger.

I feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I love hugs. :O)

Makes perfect sense here. The only differences are that that you notice more details than I have, and you don't seem to crave hugs like I do....so for me, when I'm hugged after a suitable warning, I enjoy it more than I dislike it. It's a bit of a holy grail though. I posted in an earlier thread about this, that a friend and I had learned to hug each other quite elegantly, without the ironing board effect (love that description!), but it was transient. We're as clumsy as ever these days.

Hugs are like bugs.

They make my skin crawl.

i turn into a piece of wood. if its my parents or anyone im related to i really dont like it. not only is the affection too public(i dont think thats the way to describe it) but they morally disgust me which means i think they are physically repellant. my skin crawls at their touch. with friends or aquaintences its awkward because it involves the expression of feelings in public and its just so close and touchy feely and im not used to touching people. its uncomfortable but also kind of nice.

I love hugs from my husband but I'm hate strangers invading my personal space let alone hug me. It really freaks me out.

*flinch*

I can't stand being touched. Especially hugs. I've always viewed hugs as something sexual, so getting hugs from family members is really weird and creepy. I only tolerate them from people I'm attracted to because.. well.. yeah. That much is self explanatory. (I also don't like being poked, brushed against, touched on the shoulder, have my hair messed with, or anything else)

If I know the person well, I will tolerate it (not show how much it creeps me out) I cannot be hugged by relative strangers, not even for a µ-second. My family (wife and daughter) know me well enough not to hug for too long as I am prone to panic attacks.
In the last few years I find myself able to cope with formal handshakes from men and handshakes and kisses from women. But even that is a real struggle.

I don't like hugs. They're uncomfortable. I'm very ticklish, and I feel like they're trying to tickle me.

i luv hugz im just a big teddy bare when u get 2 now me

Same here. I don't like touch too.

Good to know you all hate being hugged :p

My biggest problem is I want to be hugged too but I don't like being touched... Even when I am seeing some one I only hug once and then push him away.. god they must think I am crazy.. There was one time when this guy I had not seen in a while flung his arms around me and tried to plant a kiss on my cheek and I screamed and ran half a mile away from him :p He says to me after that "why would anyone do that?"

I hated it when I was young and my mum would try to sleep next to me to comfort me from getting startled in my sleep something I do often...

I however love hugging my cupboard that has all my book collection :p when I really need a hug I go and squeeze it :p

For me, unless the hug comes from my husband there's something rather needy and vampiric feeling about hugs...almost as if the hugger is stealing my energy or trying to force me to be physically affectionate with them.

If it's someone I'm comfortable with, like my friend, I enjoy hugging. Otherwise, I don't like it as it feels really awkward. I once had a co-worker try to give me a congratulatory hug for something I did and just refused to let her hug me.

One thing I've figured out is that all hugs are awkward, even with my friend. The difference I've found is that the awkwardness passes much quicker the more comfortable I am with the person, so I'm able to enjoy the hug more. However, I've never been hugged longer than a few seconds, so I'm not sure what would happen if that ever occurred.

I still can't initiate hugs, even with my friend. There've been several times I've wanted to, but I just couldn't. I can't even initiate hugs with family. I always have to wait until the other person hugs me.

My mom is extremely touchy-feely. And I HATE it. I let her hug\touch me because, you know, she's my mom, but I tense up and clench my teeth, like someone's scraping their fingernails across a chalkboard, until it's over. I use a quick-as-I-can half-hug with relatives, but I think I got kind of lucky with others because I'm large, quiet, and put out a strong "leave me alone" vibe.