Dealing with Kids

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So is no one I guess fearful of kids because you never fit in as a kid? For me my fears really get to me, I become fearful of them rejecting me as an adult and them thinking Im uncool because back when I was a kid, I was rejected. I mean if they do reject me, it doesnt get to me as much as if someone my age were to get to me but still it makes me more not wanting to deal with them.

I didn't learn how to start to sorta fit in and make friends until I was 18 so I know much better how to deal with adults but even yet the way I interact with fellow adults is like there older even Im the same age as them. I'll act 3-4 yrs younger then my friends who tend to be already be 1-2 yrs younger.

Kids mob me. They can tell I'm on the inside. They know that I am genuinely enthusiastic about riding kick scooters or their hexbugs or light sabers or pet hamsters or whatever, and that I am on the level.

As a parent there are times when you have to assert your authority and set boundaries . not because you like talking down to your own children but to protect them and so that they know and can see that you care .

however ,when ever I have the time I love to forget the responsibilities and play with my daughter with the same enthusiasm and joy that I once had as a kid . Then I treat her as an equal and she loves it . She gets to bash me up and I pretend to be a total wimp for example .

I keep a very wary eye out for any intimidation or coercion she may experience at school so I can nip it in the bud . There are selfish people who can and will undermine your relationship with your children if you dont keep on top of it .
for example our local anglican church members provide lots of 'volunteer' helpers at school who are little more than proselitising busy bodies trying to put the fear of god in to your innocent child and turn them against you because you have not embraced jesus ! outrageous fear mongering is rampant in public schools and you really have to be on top of it .

For this reason I always make time for my daughter so that if something is worrying her she can tell me IN HER OWN TIME . If you ask them they can often clam up because they are afraid they have done something wrong when they have not.

my daughters knows she's different and has suffered bullying in the past . So having and maintaining a good friendship with my daughter is vital.

A childs innocence and joy is the most beautifull and precious thing in the world . So many adults get corrupted by greed and vanity however that they loose the ablity to be honest and real. kids pick up on that straight away . You cant fool them .

helicopter parenting is rampant these days .It goes way beyond nurturing and encouraging . Its coercion and manipulation to satisfy the vanity and social aspirations of the parents rather than real love and respect for their childrens rights as an individual.