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14 Jun 2011, 7:56 pm

Thank-you for the comments, everyone. I'll try to convince my mom to get her to a specialist, as well as consider the sensory disorder. Hopefully if it isn't AS, she will accept the different diagnosis. I can never really get her to discuss her behavior rationally, but thanks for the idea regardless. And I realize everyone, whether or not they have AS, are all different; I just wasn't convinced there wasn't something that fit better in her case. Though I never realized there were so many ways it could affect people. I think i hit most of the ideas brought up, and thanks again everyone ^^



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14 Jun 2011, 8:24 pm

Late to the conversation but my suggestion was a common co morbid - perhaps bipolar, or there are a few others that could explain the aggression you seem to be experiencing. From what I am gathering, AS isn't really a loner dx - it seems to like to gather other conditions unto itself as well.



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14 Jun 2011, 9:15 pm

Well they need to look into how other kids are treating her at school...if they are treating her like the way she is treating you, maybe she is mimicing behavior which is a very aspie thing to do. I was often mean to my sister when I was younger, but most of that was reactionary because she would startle me or touch me, or scream in my ear, pull my hair, take off with my things then I would get into trouble when I nutted up on her. Then I went through a phase where I did not want to be human, but an animal instead because socialization become increasingly difficult and I thought animals were far less complicated, but anyway...I would attack her in my fantacy of being a tiger or something. I was put in the mental hospital when I was 8 because the therapist thought that I was a threat to her. I also have AS. But your sis really needs a formal assement not just an idea by school professionals. Just so you know though, if they find she has a personality disorder instead of AS, there are no treatments of personality disorders except some drug treatments to curb mood extreemes.


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14 Jun 2011, 9:43 pm

Raelle wrote:
I came to WP to try to understand my sister more so that we can get along better, but after reading some posts, I'm just more confused. It made me more unsure that she even has AS. I woke up this morning to her coming into my room and starting a fight with me. But from what I've read on WP, don't aspies avoid confrontation? This is her usual behavior. She is very volatile and uses every opportunity to be mean to me or do things that she knows will make me angry. She also yells a lot and is loud in general. She is not officially diagnosed, but her school and therapist both say she has AS. They based this off of her reaction to touch (she cannot stand someone touching her head or feet, and she can only wear certain fabrics), her indifference to personal hygiene, and her difficulty writing. What I've read on here (I hope no one feels this as an invasion of privacy, that's not intended) is easy for me to understand, and honestly, you seem like the kind of people I like and get along with. My sister, though, I don't feel that way about. I try to be a good sister to her and look out for her, but it seems like I'm being stabbed in the back while I try to protect her.


Little late to this thread, but here goes: Maybe she just doesn't realize what she's doing? Maybe she wants to socialize with you but because she has poor social skills, she doesn't know how to go about doing it properly. That's my best guess anyway.


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14 Jun 2011, 9:48 pm

She could have oppositional defiance disorder or anti-social personality disorder or maybe is acting out about something. I don't know her situation but maybe she is starved for attention and is getting it the only way she can think of. Or maybe like the poster before me said maybe she doesn't know how she should act around you.

When I was younger I used to throw things at a boy I liked.


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14 Jun 2011, 10:12 pm

pensieve wrote:
She could have oppositional defiance disorder or anti-social personality disorder or maybe is acting out about something. I don't know her situation but maybe she is starved for attention and is getting it the only way she can think of. Or maybe like the poster before me said maybe she doesn't know how she should act around you.

When I was younger I used to throw things at a boy I liked.


thats funny, I chased a 6th grader when I was in kindergarden with a willow branch and whiped him with it because I wanted him to be my boyfriend, but he wouldn't. He did like to call me his little dominetrix, which I had no idea what that meant at the time. :P


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15 Jun 2011, 1:37 am

Raelle wrote:
I came to WP to try to understand my sister more so that we can get along better, but after reading some posts, I'm just more confused. It made me more unsure that she even has AS. I woke up this morning to her coming into my room and starting a fight with me. But from what I've read on WP, don't aspies avoid confrontation? This is her usual behavior. She is very volatile and uses every opportunity to be mean to me or do things that she knows will make me angry. She also yells a lot and is loud in general. She is not officially diagnosed, but her school and therapist both say she has AS. They based this off of her reaction to touch (she cannot stand someone touching her head or feet, and she can only wear certain fabrics), her indifference to personal hygiene, and her difficulty writing. What I've read on here (I hope no one feels this as an invasion of privacy, that's not intended) is easy for me to understand, and honestly, you seem like the kind of people I like and get along with. My sister, though, I don't feel that way about. I try to be a good sister to her and look out for her, but it seems like I'm being stabbed in the back while I try to protect her.


You didn't do anything to instigate a attack? Such as take away a toy, move her stuff around, touching, or say something mean? I used to attack my sister when she would try to lock me out of a room or when she'd say something mean to me. (I was 7-10 at the time.) Also I used to case and tackle a boy in kindergarten because I thought it was fun at the time.

It's true AS people avoid confrontation from strangers, but family and friends it's a different matter.



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15 Jun 2011, 10:04 am

If she is getting treated badly at school, this alone can explain it. I was treated badly at school, and it had a negative affect on my overall attitude. See what's going on at school and address that. Most people react when they are stuck in a bad situation eight hours a day, ASD or not.



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15 Jun 2011, 5:07 pm

I agree with Phonic's post: those are weird reasons to label someone as likely autistic. They need more concrete examples than "poor hygiene". We aren't all dirty, smelly people who don't take care of themselves. Are there any important autistic traits, ones that are more unique to autism/aspergers, that she has?