Are short tempers typical for aspies?

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Yes, I can become very angry at things like unwanted noise in my home or people bothering me in the street.
Similarly, if unexpected change is thrust upon me, or I find myself trying to analyse a bad interraction with someone else and cannot resolve it, then I end up becoming more and more angry, usually towards myself, and losing control. It is like, when I have a bad interraction with someone, I cannot stop the thoughts about that interraction, or the self blame for things going wrong, and that fuels my anger to build up. It is a horrible feeling, especially when it turns on your own self.

I'm usually relaxed and calm, but every so often, if something pisses me off, you better get out of my way and just let me be.

I have a short fuse, I get aggrivated somewhat easily. I try to be patient with people that do things that bother me, but it's hard to keep my temper in check. But I do forget my anger REALLY fast. I can blow up at a family member, then go sit alone and cool down and I'll totally forget the feelings of anger I just had.

I've been trying for a while now to be conscious of my anger, and keep my temper from making me say something I'll regret later. I don't like having such a short fuse, but I think it may just be a part of having AS. (just my opinion though)

My Aspie husband and daughter are both bad tempered. It is like when they get angry cannot control themselves. But they are not physical. They are just very loud.

Ive got a long temper. I can keep it almost indefinitely. Even at my angriest I just don't go ape or even get abusive. I raised a child and only lost my temper with him once, and even that was just a moment of weakness which I soon recovered from. When you're in authority like that, you can't afford to lose control, especially with kids.

But that's just for friends and colleagues I might not be able to get away from so easily. With strangers on the street, I've been known to shellac them with harsh words, if they act like tossers. It hasn't happened for some time but the effect can be quite spectacular. I don't know that it's evidence of a short temper though. As far as I can see the people I've roasted have all richly deserved it.

Yep, I'm a cranky bugger - which can be a bother to my wife and son - I never direct anger AT them, but my wife points out that I make them feel like whatever has upset me is their fault. I feel really badly about that and am working hard on it.

I get impatient and frustrated very quickly, and I easily get quite wound up about things - tho most of the time I do excercise fairly strict conscious control.

That is one of the situations where I get that strange "not on the same wavelength" sensation - I genuinely am never directing anything at my wife and son but then I'll see their faces and realise OOPS It can be very painful.

From my point of view I'm just being "passionate" - thru most of my childhood I suppressed emotional expression outside my family - kids at school used to call me "Spock". As I got older I more or less decided that it was other people who were freaks so stuff them I'll damned well show my feelings regardless of what they think.

In the supermarket I ranted to anyone / everyone around me about how STUPID it was to have bottled lemon juice in the SAUCES isle rather than with the freakin FRUIT JUICES. I thought I made perfect sense and was justified in being a bit "excited" and expected everyone to agree - but all it did was bring me very close to being carted off by security

I inherited the worst traits from both sides of the family. It takes all I can muster to keep these traits buried. Namely, my maternal grandfather's temper, my paternal grandfather's mean streak, my maternal great-grandmother's weak constitution, and my paternal grandmother's family appetite (that side of the family were always great cooks.) The traits that show most are the appetite and the weak constitution. Mom and Dad could never figure out where the musical gift came from (although My paternal grandmother's side of the family is rife with musicians. Unfortunately, they are all country gospel and bluegrass musicians, which is not my cup of tea. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with that type of music. I can take it in small doses. I just don't like being told I'm going to hell because I prefer the music of Bach, Beethoven, and Brahms over that of Lowell Mason and Fanny Crosby. Now, they can possibly make a case against Beethoven, and definitely make a case against Brahms about being music of the Devil, BUT DON'T YOU DARE MAKE A CASE AGAINST BACH, as his entire life was in service to JHWH and the church as reformed by Martin Luther and Jan Hus. Besides, Luther even as much as said, "Why should the Devil get all the good tunes?"

I have a very nasty temper and a few minutes ago a few co-workers just saw it. Considering how mild mannered I usually am it probably scared the crap out of them.

Varies widely with me. Usually I'm rather controlled, but push me too far and I'll get pretty mean. Fuse gets shorter if I'm in a worse state (sleep deprived, poor emotional health for various reasons, that kind of thing).

Similarly to other posters, I have to manage the degree to which I feel overwhelmed by difficult people and difficult circumstances. To me, this feels different from other stresses which, while unpleasant, rarely lead me to lose my temper. I work hard to stay back from the edge of that cliff because I know from experience that once I go over I'll create more problems for myself.

I also see the link between anger and depression. I'd rather feel angry than depressed, but I can act more effectively if I stay purposeful, rather than becoming angry.

Breathing makes a big difference, and paying attention to my breathing helps me keep my cool.

As a child I was really even tempered and non confrontational, I didn't know how I was feeling though, I kinda just said yes to whatever anyone wanted. I had shutdowns in my teens and then as an adult I've turned to a temper. I realized that I'm at a point of my life where I feel incredibly low and scared for my future that I think i've been taking those feelings out on other people. There's also been so many changes that have happened in the last few years with me that I feel like I've been permanently overwhelmed which makes me lash out faster than before.

I used to have an incredibly short and explosive temper. I took anger management classes from 4th grade to 8th grade and they didn't work. I distinctly remember getting into a fight with one of the kids in my anger management class in 7th grade. Honestly, skateboarding helped my anger problems tremendously. I spent more time skating out my anger (and throwing my board around in fits of rage) and less time bottling it up that i eventually developed a higher threshold. I still have an explosive temper, but I rarely get to that point. Help the poor soul that manages to achieve that.

No I woudn't say it's typical for Aspies. However, I did know an aspie guy with a short temper. He got mad and upset easily, he was the kind of guy you didn't want to upset.

I cope by letting a lot of things build up. But when eventually it has got to come out and when it does
it can take many forms but I have never psychical attacked people. Things yes. But the older me lets a lot more things slide.

hair trigger. not a lot sets me off, but when it happens it happens freaky fast. i wish it didn't; it makes working through conflict with BF much harder. mostly happens with people closest to me, of similar temperament, and in my immediate environment. otherwise used to happen a lot with customer service people, but over the years i've learned not to do that because i feel so awful afterward. does not ever happen with children.

I have a short temper, but I can usually keep it in check in public. It helps that I don't talk much. It's gotten a bit better since when I was young as well. I'm not sure if I have AS or anything though.