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justjelliot
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29 Jun 2011, 12:13 am

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As I sat around contemplating myself the other day I was able to distill a number of feelings down to a pretty basic level.

Simply stated...I have an intense sense of loneliness but almost no desire at all to be with or around people. This seems counter-intuitive to me but the feeling is clear.

Anyone else relate to this?


I know a lot of people just watch a lot of television, getting social interaction indirectly. That way, they avoid the negative social interaction that could transpire from real people.

Have you ever volunteered? People you take time to help usually are very grateful and positive. Do you have any nursing homes or children's hospitals nearby? I bet both the people you help and yourself will benefit, and it will be positive.


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29 Jun 2011, 4:25 pm

I find sitting in a cafe with my laptop, or going for a swim and sauna and spa hot tub down at the public pools, or joining a small social club, to work for me.

Its a public space, and I am equally allowed to be there as much as anyone, and can up and leave whenever I want, for whatever reason

Acquaintances are more preferable to me than fiends, I mean frienemys, I mean friends



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29 Jun 2011, 11:11 pm

Even though I am married, and even live very near my Mother, I am often lonely. I just wish for better communications. Maybe I can finally find an understanding friend, here?... :D


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29 Jun 2011, 11:22 pm

edgezz wrote:
As I sat around contemplating myself the other day I was able to distill a number of feelings down to a pretty basic level.

Simply stated...I have an intense sense of loneliness but almost no desire at all to be with or around people. This seems counter-intuitive to me but the feeling is clear.

Anyone else relate to this?


I usually end up socially interacting more then I expect to......yet I still feel lonely sometimes even more so if I am around others.



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30 Jun 2011, 3:55 am

Yea, I know what you men unfortunately. I just try to distract myself with TV, Internet, sports, politics, other interests.



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30 Jun 2011, 5:36 am

I like to stay alone.....But some timem it is getting bored. Actually loneliness is also one of the depression symptoms. Form loneliness you can go towards firststation.



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30 Jun 2011, 5:45 am

Me too. It makes no sense at all, because I hate going out and socialising.

I have the same issue with the girls at work that all go out for lunch together. I don't actually want to go, but feel left out that they don't even ask.... Why do I care?? Would be much easier if I didn't care at all.



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01 Jul 2011, 11:48 am

kahlua wrote:
Me too. It makes no sense at all, because I hate going out and socialising.

I have the same issue with the girls at work that all go out for lunch together. I don't actually want to go, but feel left out that they don't even ask.... Why do I care?? Would be much easier if I didn't care at all.


I get that completely. I usually think that I would like to go do something if I could just think of something interesting. But if someone invites me somewhere I almost always say no. Then regret not going. Of course, when I do go, I usually regret that too.

Hmmm...this just kinda makes me sound neurotic.



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01 Jul 2011, 7:28 pm

I fell the exact same way. Most of the time I don't want people near me but when I stay too much time alone I fell lonely.