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SammichEater
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05 Jul 2011, 5:52 pm

I never quite know what to do either. I usually just nod and think "uuughh... right... yea... ok."


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06 Jul 2011, 4:41 pm

I have problems receiving praise or compliments. Even from my husband. Most of the time I think people is lying or exaggerating. But I have noticed people feel hurt when you take their compliments that way, so now I just say "thank you". That's it.

I do not think you should thank people for highlighting a post that you made. I do not know the norms for online behavior, but I think you can let it be. I do not think people will "expect" you to thank them. I know I don't. If I highlight something that I like, I do not expect people to thank me, and if they do I find it weird. I just did that because I wanted to, because I liked what I read, not because I was expecting something in return. I think you should take it as an indicative that people liked your comment, feel good about it, and let it be.

Yes, I have also found some people have ulterior motives, so I say "thank you", but do not trust too much and keep an eye open just in case.



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06 Jul 2011, 5:00 pm

Ilka wrote:
I do not think you should thank people for highlighting a post that you made. I do not know the norms for online behavior, but I think you can let it be. I do not think people will "expect" you to thank them. I know I don't. If I highlight something that I like, I do not expect people to thank me, and if they do I find it weird. I just did that because I wanted to, because I liked what I read, not because I was expecting something in return. I think you should take it as an indicative that people liked your comment, feel good about it, and let it be.


Cool. I usually just thank people online when they answer a question. So, thanks!


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