What do you dislike the most about aspergers syndrome

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Autism speaks appears to be some WP members choice for worst thing about aspergers

I guess its like what Tony Attwood says, the problem is with other people

And some other people who are supposedly our advocates, are our worst experiences....

How awful that is!

Hate having to analyse everything, no matter if I do it consciously or unconsciously, I always do.
Dislike anoying others with my monologs, even though I speak mostly only being ask to. But even when I warned them about my "habit" to realy dive into a topic, I am still tire them. I've already been asked if I am doctor or scientist. I just reply that I had reason to dig into those topics, read books and internet articles about it, 'till I understood the problems/topics.

I mostly do not tell others that I am an aspie, having to do it that way. So, I vae been told that I think too much... well, if I could, I would like to reduce it. I found a way reducing it, but that increased my weight. I eat too much, so my body hat to work so hard that my brain got realy very little energy left, so I was like being seduced.

And sure, I hate to not understand in realtime the nonverbal communication and many social unwritten rules.

Being totally dismissed as a human being.

Everything about it. Autism is a pain in the arse and I wish I wasn't the one born with it.

I was about to say nothing, but actually there is one negative thing that I think is related to the condition: The difficulty finding someone to share moments with, because everybody else is so different to me (and similar to each other), that I have a problem to open myself to most people.

Getting into my "I can't shut up" mode, and realizing afterwards that I probably sounded like a fool.

(Thankfully, I usually don't care too much what others think, so I shrug it off fairly quickly.)

The "meltdowns" that come out of nowhere, like the other day when I started feeling freaked out and irritable for seemingly no reason. It was in public (on the bus to work) so I had to sublimate it and just sit there screaming on the inside. I was still a wreck for about an hour or two when I got to work.

That's a little harder to "shrug off."

The social isolation it can bring and the negative reactions from other people.

Some things that immediately come to mind:
1) Lack of Empathy - Not being able to read people’s feelings
2) Not knowing how to show my love to those closest to me
3) Always getting things wrong, especially when acting on best intentions
4) Blindness to Non-verbal Communication in real time
5) Inability to engage in small talk
6) Loneliness, even when with friends and family.

I just hate when I go out looking and acting normal, and I still get looks as though I've killed someone. This is my top anxiety and there is just nothing to even work on, because I've done everything I could: I go out wearing clothes that make me blend in, and I walk up straight and like anyone else. I carry a trendy handbag over my shoulder, like most ordinary women do. I even keep clean (which I did before anyway), and my hair is always washed and brushed. All I can say is I go out looking presentable, not too snobby and not too weird. I'm just another random stranger walking. That's all I am. Well, that's all I thought I just was. Evidentally not. The way people look at me, I feel like a deformed freak. Anyway, where I come from, you get all sorts of people, from weird to snobby to just descent, so I didn't think you could stand out if you tried.

And women don't look at me like they're jealous. That is not true. I am a very jealous person, and I get jealous of people with normal social skills, but I don't glare at a crowd of people laughing and chatting. I get jealous of people with black hair and brown eyes, but I never glare at them. It's not fair on them. Anyway - I know people aren't staring because they're jealous, because I get more pretty girls staring at me than fatter, unattractive girls. So there you have it.

I can't take ''your weirdness shows right through you however you try to cover it up'' for an answer. Although it is probably the awful truth. Makes me have less confidence in myself.

I can't stand loud noises and sudden sounds. It causes me to hold my ears in pain. Also the severe anxiety that goes along with autism. I am at risk from a heart attack because my blood pressure spikes under stress and not just a small amount. Last week it reached 175/96. Normal is 120/80. Also because of the severe anxiety, my heart rate is mainly above 100bpm and sometimes reaches above 140 bpm. I just can't deal with anything. Noises actually hurt my ears. Also dealing with change and unexpected things really stresses me out. Also because of this stress my fibromyalgia acts up. Believe it or not my socializing skills is a lot better now than it used to be. When I was younger, I had none. I didn't care about socializing but now I want friends and actually have about 3 of them. In fact one of those friends has Asperger's Syndrome. I have classic autism. Diagnosed when I was 5 but had symptoms shortly after birth. My dad also has Asperger's syndrome.

What I dislike most about it is the staring AS causes me to do, that alone has caused me a lot of pain over the years, I try my best to fight it, but I still have slip ups.

Also, difficultly socializing and poor social skills.

Social Anxiety

Clumsiness, for this reason I always hated Gym in High School.

Awkwardness and the isolation.

Having trouble hearing in loud places.