I actually LIKE people!

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Most of the people I like are NTs. I don't hate people as a group, although I am wary of people who fit particular criteria because they have a tendency to run roughshod over people like me without caring in the least - but not all are like that.

Oh, I understand them alright when I'm solving advanced calculus problems for fun and they cry "Loser". But, I'm signing their paychecks nowadays so I guess it all evens out in the end.

^ *laughs at the above!*

Anyway, I know plenty of people with AS who enjoy being around people. Doesn't make them any more or less AS, though.

I like people too. Definitely more now I understand them better. I think most of them mean well most of the time... I've worked out that if people seem unfriendly it's most often because I'm not doing a good enough job of seeming friendly to them.

Having AS and liking people are not mutually exclusive.

Liking is too simple a word to describe how I feel about "people." And "people" seem so different from each other that it's hard to have any consistent reaction to them as a class.

I'm sure I'm guilty of disregarding most people, but if they just bring themselves to my attention in a respectful way, then I won't be a snob, I'll listen to them. I just won't go out of my way to befriend them, especially if they're in any way rude to me or if they seem brash, judgemental or narcissistic in general.

I guess it's a case of can't live with them, can't live without them. They wind me up with their quirks, and I can feel completely overwhelmed by them, but take them away completely and I wouldn't want to live.

This. I don't mind people in general. I don't make an effort to avoid anybody unless they have really annoyed me. But I keep my distance from NTs just because I have fallen into traps with them in the past and don't want to wind up feeling stupid again just because I didn't interpret some hidden meaning of what they said or some nonverbal cue. I don't feel entirely comfortable with most NTs because I never know whether they are being truthful or not. I work with solid information only and then I have no proof whether the information I am receiving is solid or not, I have no idea what the logical response should be. Most of the time, I get it wrong, so I am just letting it be. If they ask me something, I respond, but they have never initiated any deeper connection with me overtly so I just let it be. With people on the spectrum, that bonding has occured very easily and very naturally; I generally don't feel like I am missing something in my interaction with people on the spectrum and I feel like I can trust them readily more often than not, for some reason, but that's my personal experience. That's why I am now generally more open with non-neurotypicals from the start.

...and I can't understand why people don't like me.

Exactly......I try to process their fuzzy stuff, maybe with some success occasionally, but it's like being in a weird dream. Why can't they just say what they mean?

People make the world go round

I also like people as well.