For the aspie, there's no such thing as "awkward"?

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Awkward describes me quite well, on multiple levels. I'm very much dyspraxic, and received *very* little help for that as a child. Thus, my fine motor skills, my gross motor skills, my eye-hand coordination and manual dexterity are all extremely poor. I also have significant problems with balance and awareness of my body's position in space. I frequently can't figure out how to move in order to complete a task successfully. For instance, when I'm walking among other people, I won't be able to figure out how to avoid bumping into people and inanimate objects. When I'm trying to put something somewhere, I often won't be able to do it without knocking other things over. When I'm gesturing while talking, I won't notice how close other people are to me, and I wind up inadvertently poking, whacking or elbowing people. This morning, I was in the Subway station, making the commute to my job's off-site location, and it turned out my MetroCard did not have a full fare's worth of money on it. I had my MetroCard, and a coffee cup in my hand. The coffee cup was covered, with only the little tab for drinking open. I had to make my way over to the MetroCard machine, fumble in my bag for my credit card, touch a few buttons on a touch screen, swipe my MetroCard and my Credit Card, then retrieve each card in turn. In doing this, I spilled about 20% of my coffee on my shirt, as I couldn't figure out how to move to avoid doing that. Thus, the way, I move and position myself when sitting or standing is very awkward, and I look distinctly awkward physically all the time.
I'm also socially awkward. I often can't figure out what I'm supposed to be saying or doing in a given situation, or I'll be in a conversation, knowing that I'm supposed to be saying something to keep the conversation going, but unable to think of what to say. In these situations when I can't for the life of my figure out what to do or say, I'll just force myself to do or say something, and then I usually wind up doing or saying the wrong thing. I also tend to come across as disoriented, or "lost" when this happens, and it happens too often. This tends to unsettle other people around me, making them want to avoid contact with me, and leading to an overall low opinion of me.
Wow, I rambled on far too long. That was awkward.
In other words, awkward very much exists for me, and I am just about the most awkward person I know. Such awkwardness can be very uncomfortable.

Unless I have planned out a script for a conversation, almost any social interaction is awkward to me.

Everything I do, I do it awkwardly.