why stop socializing just b/c u got Aspergers?

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Something smells fishy here...

I was dx two years ago and I still push myself to get out there. I NEED friends and socialization but fail at it most of the time. Sometimes I get frustrated and think I would like to give up and just sit home. But I would never be happy that way. Maybe he is tired of fighting a never ending battle.

I wouldn't assume someone who appears to have a normal social life necessarily has a social life. I have "appeared" to have a "normal" social life in the past, but it was far from normal and extremely exhausting for me.

As far as it goes, I am grateful to know that I am autistic and that there is a reason that I am mostly asocial. I don't feel any particular need to be social or be around people, and being around people can be stressful and exhausting. So, I don't really socialize much. I do socialize, because I like people and have friends, but it's not my priority in life.

Im self diagnosed. Hasn't changed anything for me. I'v always had periods of my life where I'v had friends, and times where I haven't. Unfourtunatly I'm going through another lonely summer My diagnosis has had nothing to do with that.
Deep down Iv always known something was wrong, though I adamantly denied it and told myself I was just fine. Although pacing around being lost in my own world certainly isn't normal.....
For me I finally admitted to myself that yes, somethings wrong, so I went looking for answers. I finally stumbled upon the ASD symptoms and found out that many of the things I found unusual in my behavior could all be unified. (I had thought they were all separate, unique problems.) I didn't know what to expect when I went looking for answers, but I certainly didn't expect a mild mental disorder to be the root cause. I was shocked and slightly baffled at what I had found, but it eventually sunk in that "Ya, that sounds like me )
To me it sounds like he's shocked about what he's found. I caved and admitted that I should probably look for the cause of the problems, but he was essentially forced into looking into the issue. That might very well be the source of his "Aw f@#k it" attitude.

The older I get the more I want to be away from people. When I was a kid my parents forced me to play with their friend's kids so I got use to being around people. I also had a good number of weird or geeky friends in high school but I stopped hanging out with people around the time I started working. It seemed like being around my co-workers drained me making me to want to avoid people at all costs. I tried to start hanging out with a Dungeons & Dragons meet up group right before my diagnosis but it was just too much for me so I quit because I was dreading waking up on the days I had a game. I did all this before I even really figured out I was autistic.

There can be lots of explanations for it and you should not dissmiss anybody on only one fact. I stoped having friends at the same time I found out about ASDs and there are lots of factors wich played in to that.

Like many said before, he may have been exasperated by socializing. I had friends in college and in high school, and I went to parties and all that stuff, but I was stressed the entire time.

Been antisocial all my life and I ain't about to change. I only get out to grocery shop or pay bills and do other things that are necessary.