Do other Aspies frustrate you with their aspiness?

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I've only met one Aspie in real life.

She had a propensity to go off topic on lecture streaks when triggered by certain words in a conversation, and yet there was a certain appropriateness or logic to her doing so that i could understand, so it didn't really bother me so much as make me think "thank god I've (I think??) reduced my own tendancy to go off like that."

The only thing that confused me about her was the every-so-often "evil looks" she passed at people (sometimes even when they weren't looking), but after 4 days (it was a group therapy type thing for mixed people with all sorts of mental health concerns) I sort of noticed that she was doing that look for everyone, and it had (I now believe) no evil intent... Maybe she was shortsighted or something, and it was just a squint to focus or observe.

Otherwise she was cute. A bit too young and a bit too tall for me maybe.
*Sigh* Oh Stephanie where are you now?

(Actually, I think the long term conflict would have been her intense interest in maths, and my intense idiocy in maths )

Oops....sorry! I kouldn't resist.

Very very true! You seem to have a knack of hitting the nail on the head :)

Its very irritating because I'm usually the guy rambling on about cars and the other guy wants to talk about cactus' or something

If it makes you feel better, I really dig cars. I'm not really obsessed with them, but I enjoy them very much. I love driving, as well as rc cars.

I think I would get annoyed though if someone was rambling on about something without a breath, and didn't give me a chance to say anything or escape. It's better if they're including you in the conversation.

Occasionally.

I suppose, but I've only met one person who I knew that was an Aspie. She's into Astronomy (NASA), but I didn't feel offended by her talking of the matter for too long. I might not have even been aware of it because I was so sleepy, though. With some that I've talk to online, I wonder if they are being intentional buttholes or condescending with some of their questionable responses. I may think, "Did I word that correctly for them to understand, or did they just take it the wrong way and I shouldn't be so offended?"

But I have to remember that I could do the same thing to others, with my rambling, and subject matter, though I've worked on not trying appear this way to others....

If someone is talking to me about a subject they find interesting forever so that I am bored I ask them to stop. They usually do.

They definitely do if they're adults. Those with AD(H)D too.

Talking to kids about their interests is fun even if I don't care much about blankets, cars, ants or tops. With kids there's more opportunity for the back-and-forth of conversation. (from my autistic perspective) I get to answer, I get to ask questions, I can make a suggestion or just say I'm bored and want to change the subject.

They can't force me to stay on topic and they are fun to engage into something new (even if it's tiny).

With adults I feel it's more repetitive and they don't really care for responses, their sentences are long and the way they present their interest is in a fashion I don't think alike to.

At worst, they (subconsciously) try to force me to stay on topic and they more often resist to be engaged into something else.

Well, the way I see it, this applies to all children and adults. I don't know anyone who isn't like this - in my eyes. It's just that some of those with ASDs and AD(H)D take it beyond that.


I don't think I annoy anyone with my interests.

I don't like talking about what interests me. I don't see the point if someone else is not interested in it too. If someone is, then for the sake of social improvement, I'd rather hear them talking to understand social expectations better.

I suppose my communication style is, if anything, more childlike. I can annoy people a lot, too. A lot. My distractedness is formidable.

People around me usually make a point to just ignore it (for the sake of their sanity) for half a minute or at most a minute until I get back to the conversation by myself.


Not making much sense, but I already got annoyed with HF autistic adults who don't keep to social rules in face to face interactions.

I try not to, but my initial reaction is annoyance about that someone older and less-autistic than me just didn't keep to the social rule I kept to.

It annoys me. But messy people with ADHD (who share my living-space) annoy me too, until a couple of seconds later, I remind myself there's absolutely no point of being annoyed.

So then I learnt to breathe in deep and stop being annoyed, because that way I feel much better.


That all said, I really enjoy working with people with autism and AD(H)D. They're not any more or any less annoying than other people, but interacting with them sure offers a different way of fun than is gained by interacting just with “normal” people.

LOL... This is great!

I love the aspieness of other aspies. Where can I find some aspies to aspie me with their aspieness? Listening to aspiespew is sooooooo valiuming for this aspie. Knowing that this aspie doesn't have to say anything back...Wonderfully soothing for this aspie. Knowing that this aspie can be around another aspie aspiespewing without the fake fakity fake fake fiving-and-faking...Relaxing.

Sometimes they do. It's not that I don't respect their behaviours, as I understand them to a certian degree and know where they come from. Still, I feel on guard in some ways around them as I have NT-like reactions to some things that they do, and it takes me a minute to sort it out and see why they are acting in a certian way.

Sometimes, but honestly it's more to do with being embarrassed for myself when I see them doing something that I do.

I'm prone to talking people to death too.

But some aspies are shockers that really need to learn to STFU

Nope. I like learning new things and it makes me happy when I see people feel delight in being able to talk about their favorite things. I might get tired out from processing a lot of language, but I wouldn't be irritated. I ramble, too, so I have a lot of patience for it.



That would depend on how upset I was, and what the conflict was about. I think I'd probably be hurt and confused first....actually, sometimes when I'm arguing with someone and they start laughing, it distracts me from being angry--I just want to know what's funny.

Other's talking about their special interests I find either interesting or irrelevant, dependent on the topic. Many I'd find interesting, but things like discussing weapons, and what kills people most efficiently, I just don't listen to.

Others not understanding or reacting other than how they are expected to I either don't notice or don't care about.

Others being too set in their routines and too extremely anti-change to be able to even try to compromise, does bother me a ridiculous amount and might make me never associate with this person again. If they aren't affecting others, it might or might not bother me because of association, but if their inability to deal with change starts affecting me, I'll be completely unable to deal with it. I ended up in a situation where I was emotionally abused where it started down that path because of his inability to compromise about the heat the apartment he was living in with others, was set at. I won't be able to deal with things like what began that again for at least a long time.

Of the aspies I've been around only the one who abused me has frustrated me with his aspieness, though it wasn't the aspieness that caused the abuse.