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Which one?
I want them to come into my world 27%  27%  [ 7 ]
I want us to have our own, shared world 69%  69%  [ 18 ]
I want to join their world 4%  4%  [ 1 ]
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24 Jul 2011, 9:32 pm

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And you're lucky you get offered sex.


It's meaningless when you're not interested.



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24 Jul 2011, 9:41 pm

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I was pretty sure you were gonna say sex. :P


You'd be surprised if you got to know me. People often think I'm a horndog because I talk so openly about sex, but I feel borderline asexual most of the time. I've actually turned down casual sex more times than you'd probably believe.


Same here, actually. I don't think I'm asexual at all. But I'm definitely not as much of a hornbitch as much as I seem. And you're lucky you get offered sex.


What if you were in bed with someone?



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24 Jul 2011, 9:48 pm

True I guess, Jory. :P Kinda like when someone likes you and you don't like them back at all. It doesn't really raise your self-confidence.

If we didn't have chemistry, I don't think I'd be able to get aroused. I mean, maybe if they had a bag over their head, and kept away from my face, and I'd be able to categorize them as a sex toy.. Oh dear I sound terrible.


Hey, Titangeek, Ok, I mean kinda like, oh, I don't know! Answer what seems right to you. I can't explain it. :)



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24 Jul 2011, 9:51 pm

i am now more confused then ever 8O

42, that's my answer


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24 Jul 2011, 9:54 pm

Titangeek wrote:
i am now more confused then ever 8O

42, that's my answer


I'm so sorry! XD Let me try... Okay so you know how ASD folk talk about living in their own world, right? Would you rather have the other person pursuing yours, and understanding you? Or would you like to have them get into yours, and you try and understand them intimately, too? Or would you just be interested in "getting" them? Does that make sense?



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24 Jul 2011, 9:56 pm

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Does that make sense?

Not really.
I think i will stick with 42 8)


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24 Jul 2011, 10:06 pm

I would wish for a shared world... it is important to me that the person I am with is willing to learn to understand me, and that in turn, I can learn to understand them. I cannot see it working any other way, personally. Mutual understanding can prevent all sorts of issues arising in communication.


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24 Jul 2011, 10:13 pm

I wholeheartedly agree, Graelwyn.

Sorry Titan, I failed. :P



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24 Jul 2011, 10:32 pm

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Sorry Titan, I failed. :P


All is well, though the following lolcat still holds true 8)
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24 Jul 2011, 11:05 pm

:D



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24 Jul 2011, 11:29 pm

I voted for I want to join their world but shared world would work well for me to. I never really been very happy in my own world but I cant get out of it on my own. I have someone rite now & it's long distance. If things get more serious with us & we were to quit being long distance; it would be best for both of us if I were to move & try to be in her world. She has a lot more going on in her's than I do; she has school, friends, career plans ect & I don't. I could probably learn, grow, mature, & improve a lot if I got away from here & had someone help me adjust/transition me to the world


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25 Jul 2011, 12:47 am

I don't really think I have my own world anymore. I, too, am confused.

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25 Jul 2011, 6:28 am

For me to accept people as they are and for people to accept me as I am.


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25 Jul 2011, 8:37 am

Spazzergasm wrote:
Titangeek wrote:
i am now more confused then ever 8O

42, that's my answer


I'm so sorry! XD Let me try... Okay so you know how ASD folk talk about living in their own world, right? Would you rather have the other person pursuing yours, and understanding you? Or would you like to have them get into yours, and you try and understand them intimately, too? Or would you just be interested in "getting" them? Does that make sense?

To me, sure. I was thinking too literally, living in the other's apartment? Lol

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I would wish for a shared world... it is important to me that the person I am with is willing to learn to understand me, and that in turn, I can learn to understand them. I cannot see it working any other way, personally. Mutual understanding can prevent all sorts of issues arising in communication.

Sorry to say that, but that's just not enough. I'm not talking about perceived understanding, which is not one in reality, but understanding with the lack of acceptance. Different aims and judgments about the same things make it hard to be in "our world" together.

As for the choice, I wasn't able to find "our world" during the year of my only real relationship. Both of us have suffered being in the other's world. So I opted for "I want them to come into my world".