Aspie couples

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I have been married for fifteen years, have a couple of children and am happy in my marriage. I do however live in a separate COUNTRY to my wife and have done for several years now. I visit for about three days every other month and the family come here once a year but otherwise all family life is carried out on the phone or internet.

I think this a valuable option for the aspie marriage problem. My wife is not aspie as far as I can tell and I can't explain why it works from her point of view but it does solve lots of issues for both of us. The main problems come from other people, a lot of whom just can't cope with it and think you are in some state of self delusion and should get divorced like everyone else.

I would be interested to hear if anyone else has experience of this?

Offended by what you said, I would think not, BUT the reason for the lack of replies probably stems from the fact that many of us here...myself included, unfortunatley can't give much advice to help you out because we lack experience in a relationship. You are one of the lucky few that are in a relationship, and have had it survive long enough to get married.

IMHO aspies/HFA's would work best together versus an ASD/NT. The understanding I think between this combination would be impossible, and communication would be even worse, as the two wouldn't understand each other, especially if the femal is NT. This, I speak from experience as I have pretty much figured out that autism is much more significant among the male population than the female, so there's pretty slim pickings for us aspie guys finding a similal gal!

I dont see how i could be jealous of someone else having someone else special in there own life...

Just saying

Agreed...I don't get offended by other people's happiness.

I didn't answer originally because I'm in an AS/NT"ish" relationship...I have AS/ADHD and my husband has ADHD. Since my diagnosis he has been *slowly* learning more about AS and our relationship has improved. Still lots of work to do, but sometimes I wish my husband understood more about what it's like to BE someone with AS. I think he wouldn't say a lot of the hurtful things he does if he understood.

~Kate