Is there any such thing as a real, true, honest friend-

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I've found some very good friends, but it's usually a compromise of some sort. No friendships are perfect because everyone is human. I've certainly found people that I can trust completely. They just take time to find and get to know and you may find they come from unlikely backgrounds. Keep searching, though, and I'm sure you'll eventually find a true friend.

mb1984- I want to apologize to you for not writing something back sooner. My relationship with my wife has been truly chaotic- she loves me, then she gets so mad, suddenly, at me she wants to leave me behind, immediately.She has even been called insane by a man who knew her really well before I knew her better. And in all honesty, she has now moved out. Taken her things and gone. I have just found life to be like a tornado here of late....
Troy_Guther- I would welcome a good friendship! Thanks for your wording of it! Sounds good to me...
Syrella- Thank you for your kindness toward me. As I've already told in this post, life has really been like a destructive tornado for me lately. I'm not sure what to do next, even...

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Definetly. In fact, if you agree with me and think its so important, then you can make it one more by being one yourself whenever you have the chance.

Yes, there is. I am so grateful to have one.
You can't really look for it. You just have to be as good a person as possible, and hope one comes along.
My friend and I didn't like each other at first. But we had to go to Turkish school together, and our families were friends, so we went to each others houses a lot. After 6 years we're best friends. I can literally tell her anything. And I act like I do when I'm alone around her, for the most part. And nothing is ever awkward with her.

So yeah. Don't force them. They've got to happen naturally. I've found they're formed best when both people have to do something kind of hard together. And they take time.

Confusion= JWS

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Short answer for the OP - Yes, but it's harder than finding a needle in a haystack.
Still haven't found a proper friend in my life, I don't think.

I think it exists.

It never did for me if the whole friendship started with conversations about being friends or so though. It may be that others had certain expectations of how to start the friendship or had certain expectations of me for being their friend. I guess it's difficult for normal people (all of them were classmates and coworkers) who don't know me to know what to expect of me.

Friendships I formed just developed slowly. We knew each other, we talked a little in situations that required small talk and while I never intended to be friends with them when we first met, I suddenly was and it's great.

Yes but they are rarer than rocking horse poo.

Yes and I have two such friends.

Hi, all.
I've been reading through everyone's posts and I have seen some good and thoughtful answers.
I DO want to be a friend, as Yanks28th pointed out. I have just been dealing (and am STILL dealing) with some very real confusion!
I still want to figure out how a real friendship is made and kept, and to do that.
I have had to deal with untreated insanity in my life. Now, apparently from two different people.
Hope this might help to explain my intense confusion. When you deal with strange thinking and conclusions (supposed NT or not), it's kinda hard to understand what "normal" thinking might be.
Also, if I sound confusing to anyone here, maybe I have more than AS/HFA myself?.....*sigh*

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TenPencePiece, sometimes I wish I could actually find that "needle in a haystack".
I guess finding a caring friend is a LOT more difficult for those with Autism Spectrum Disorders. I noticed it seems second nature for many NTs, but harder for us....Makes me hope prayer can move some more mountains for me, too.

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I was glad to see that several of you posted about finding "real" friendships.
Maybe that means there's more hope for the rest of us?...

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I can tell I was super- stressed when I wrote much of what I wrote on this string, before.
Things have changed quite a bit since I last wrote on this- The woman who was my wife and I have been apart for several years, now, and it's extremely doubtful we would ever get back together, ever again.
The ex- girlfriend wants me back, but I don't trust her enough to consider going back together with her. On top of all else (for her) She lost custody of her only child- a daughter.

Well, here's my update on this story. So there ya go!

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