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I'm not fat, I'm husky and I'm also proud of my size.

I just wanted to mention that people with HIV can have children who are not infected. A baby born to an infected mother has a 25% chance of becoming infected and with current treatments, the risk is less than 2%.

http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregna ... vaids.html

I'm pretty sure that 2 aspergers parents could have NT children, just like many autistic kids have NT parents. It's just a matter of odds. Babies are incredibly unpredictable, and I don't think you can ever entirely know ahead of time what issues you are going to face with them.

I think similarly. Although I'm not terrified that much, maybe I'm just utterly oblivious and naive, as usual...

I think HIV shouldn't be passed on to children because of the much more severe consequences than any of the ASDs have, though you can always entertain hopes for a possible cure in the future, so it's only a general rule, I certainly wouldn't accuse of immorality any parents who pass on HIV to their offspring.

nice username, Sabbath fan? my dad used drugs, might be a reason...I've tried marijuana in the past, all it does is make me paranoid and hallucinate, is this common with other aspies?

as far as marriage is concerned, first I have to get a girlfriend. I've had actual serious girlfriends in the past (sex was involved in two of them), some aspie some not, mostly not....but it seems relating to girls in general is tough. the whole hypermasculine brain thing has to be true. lets see, I'm brutally honest, see things black and white, and sarcasm (unless its done by me) flies way over my head. girls seem to be the opposite, which is why my relationships were filled with drama and crumbled. led to me being misogynistic unfortunately and has hurt me more than helped me.

I reproduced before I had a name for what I have....I have three *very* bright, awesome children. All 3 have ADHD, and the middle child (13) has AS too. Doesn't make them any less bright or any less awesome. I have no regrets...in fact these days I live for my children.

~Kate

If I find the right person.

If they find the right person and want to.

If they find the person and want to.

"Because every person on Earth has a syndrome/disorder/disease of some kind, or in their family, so I thought nothing of it."

I've been married for 12 years and it's been wonderful. We didn't know anything about autism, though. No idea what it is or if it's genetic.

I think if we knew, and was sure it's genetic, we'd have tried to have just one kid instead of two. Being weird is not our only quality after all. Intelligence and good looks can be genetic, too.

I hate questions like this. Who do these "Normal" people think that they are that only they are allowed to have kids? I swear, I think this mindset needs to be examined. Instead of focusing on if autistic people should have kids why not ask if narcissistic mothers who train their kids to degrade people, lie and bully people or not be loved by mommy should have kids instead.

Also, why do these so called "normal" people think that only they are equipped to be parents even to autistic kids? Some are downright cruel enough to go on tv and degrade their own child and take on a victim status to convince the public that we're all mean and bad to our parents. Meanwhile, those same people are the ones who are the ones who are trashing their own child on tv and showing lack of empathy. Oh but it's okay for them because they are society approved.

Society NEEDS people like us whether you like it or not. The problem is this herd mentality that exists. Whether these so called normal people understand this or not, without their knowledge they are in fact turning more autistic themselves the more they use the computer, the more time they spend engaged in that solitary activity.

You're ALL turning into us. You just don't know it yet.

Now all you need to do is start collecting, obtain a couple of kitties and stop talking about reality tv and obsessing over fashion. Then you'll be okay.

I plan to get married sometime in my late 20s/early 30s.



It depends on the situation. If that person with AIDS is in love with the person that they want to marry, then I don't see why not. Otherwise, no.



If the person affected with autism is in love with the person that they want to marry, then I don't see anything stopping that person from doing so. Otherwise, no.

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I didn't realize you had to get married to get pregnant.

I liked being married. We were together for 16 years, and very happily married for most of 15. She had a benign brain tumor, she had it when we met. We liked the same things, really liked each other, and people thought we were a great couple, like a turn your head and look type couple. When it shank away after a decade of treatment her personality changed, and she said she still loved me but just didn't want to be married anymore.
I was basically married to a brain tumor all those years. So you can never really know just how it's going to be. When she left it was very hard to be alone in the world, because we literally spent most of our day together, and I had really "come out of shell" as it were. Now I kind of feel like have no shell to retreat to anymore, and certainly no soft place to fall.

And they say we are crazy...crazy like a dead rock star! Wait, is that a good thing?

I can vouch for AS being genetically passed through generations. My grandfather (1892-1954) was a very remote person who paid no attention to his children. My grandmother (1893-1966) was very self-centered and blurted out very inappropriate things. My father (1916-1997) did the same things, to a far greater degree, and he displayed plenty of other symptoms that I now recognize as AS. In fact, when I first learned about AS and read the list of symptoms, it was a letter-perfect description of my father, and to a certain extent, of my grandparents. It's what prompted me to get myself diagnosed last year, and it turns out I have it too. I am the first person in my family to realize what was wrong with Dad and with me. My parents are both dead and I wish so much I had discovered the truth while they were still alive.

I had all the symptoms all my life, but I was a child in the 1950's, and no one recognized my problem as a disability. Everyone in my whole family and at school just thought I was, among other things, "stupid, standoffish, rude, unfriendly, aloof, stuck-up, selfish, clumsy, weird, ret*d, kind of a nut," and "a creep." These are only a few of the names I was called, by both my parents as well as everyone else. My mom constantly criticized me and my dad, saying we were "not interested in people" and "self-centered." She made Dad and me ashamed of ourselves.

My nephew (born in 1974), my brother's son, showed some symptoms when he was little. He was hyper-sensitive, mentally gifted, and didn't like being touched. I felt terrible when I realized this, because I didn't want my traits to be passed on. I was ashamed of them. And my brother was completely intolerant of his son. He said "I'm disappointed in him." It was heartbreaking to hear this, because the poor child couldn't help it, any more than I could. Luckily his mother, my sister-in-law, was kind and helpful to the child. And as my nephew grew, his symptoms eventually disappeared, and he's fine now. Now my brother has grandchildren, and one of them has been showing some of the symptoms, but she is getting the help she needs.

I'm a woman, and I've never in my life had the slightest desire to have children or be anyone's wife, or even to date. I've never had sex, either. Those things seem unbearably invasive to me. When I was young I thought it was good that I wasn't going to have children. I hated myself so much that I didn't want to have a child, for fear he or she would resemble me, and I would not be able to love a child who reminded me of myself. I also didn't want to pass on this difficult condition to anyone.

My self-hatred is now a thing of the past. I realize now that with some people, having AS prevents you from wanting to merge with another person and bring forth children. I also feel that AS is the reason why I have many different creative talents. This is why, if I could get rid of it, I wouldn't.

It's important to watch for signs of AS in children, but it's even more important to be tolerant, supportive, kind and helpful with the child. I received no such kindness, and that is why I told my older brother about my AS. I wanted him to be more aware of it in case he has more grandchildren. It's my duty to make sure no other child in this family is treated the way I was.

Oh geez, what if you were born into a rich family and are upset that you didn't get to participate in the lower-class struggle in society?
Come on, you live on a very nice planet, so what if it's the wrong one? It's got air!

Oh, by the way EVERYONE, I'm pretty sure this post was meant to inflame others. No neurotypical makes comparisons between a group's condition and AIDs without expecting some kind of retaliation. In other words, I'm pretty sure this was a troll-ish post or at least that was its intention. It seems like it partially succeeded, but many seem to be pretty calm about it.

I would like to get married someday, but I don'twant kids at all if I can help it.