How quiet are Aspies

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Totally depends on the place and person...I class talking about books,science ,philosophy,psyc...you couldnt get me to shut up(kids hated me...thought I was a teacher kiss butt...but I liked learning)At work I always have something to "complain about(I think I am suggesting logical solutions or advocating for a client....I have a bad rep there)

Social situations...prefer one on one about topics of interest...I am a fountain of useless info...and relate everything someone says to my own life...I doubt I would have any thing to say around rich or "sain" people....

If I am actually interested and listening to the other person and a thought pops into my head...I am COMPELLED to say it or it repeats over and over and drives me nuts...so I interupt alot....bad habit

I don't say anything if i'm with somebody I don't know well. When I thaw out, I'm a talker. But I can't do smalltalk at all, at all. I get into trouble with introductions, I don't twig that they're not giving me information, they're waiting for me to babble welcomes. To me, "This is <name>" is just a piece of information. If I'm tired, I don't remember to babble.

why speak when the people are talking at a lower 'intelligence' factor or otherwise a higher 'intelligence' factor or about hurting others or doing petty crimes, ect ect. There just isnt much opportunity for good talk and how does one talk to those people anyways? mimic? that??

that's what I think.


I've had opportunity to work with a 80 percent multicultural group. There are things to talk about with them because 'everyones trying to communicate and make friends'--these other types, these 'normals' don't try-just do.

the less I try to be politically correct (in general-not neccesarily in conversation) the more I am able to talk about the things other people want to talk about and on the level that they talk about it--but I always snap with rage at the end of this long ordealing process of dealing with people whose logic does doesn't meet ends correctly.

I learn a little from them too, over time, small NT things that I wouldn't have thought of, like the importance of dining together as a group at lunches---but technically, the multiculturals were my translator for this weird concept of smacking food together as a means of showing one is 'a part' of the whole--

I dont find much to talk of outside of the structure of something to talk of (such as work at work, ect) so I don't socialize. Luckily I just met a both foriegn AND asperger friend who is just like me and a day of conversation helped a lifetime of miscommunication. Is it just me???? Enter 100 life long questions here. No! me too me too!

I hope she's chatting it up on here soon too..

When you find like minded people in your present you'll have things to talk about I gather, and the current issue wont matter at those times.
My guess at it anyway

I'm quiet when others are talking, which is most of the time. I seem to be incapable of interrupting.

I'm extremely quiet with strangers, somewhat less so among people that I know slightly but feel a little uncomfortable with, and I can be very talkative with friends or family.

Most of the time I'm fairly quiet, unless someone says something that sparks my interest. I have a bad habit of butting into conversations and answering questions (rhetorical or otherwise).

why speak when the people are talking at a lower 'intelligence' factor or otherwise a higher 'intelligence' factor or about hurting others or doing petty crimes, ect ect. There just isnt much opportunity for good talk and how does one talk to those people anyways? mimic? that??

that's what I think.


I've had opportunity to work with a 80 percent multicultural group. There are things to talk about with them because 'everyones trying to communicate and make friends'--these other types, these 'normals' don't try-just do.

the less I try to be politically correct (in general-not neccesarily in conversation) the more I am able to talk about the things other people want to talk about and on the level that they talk about it--but I always snap with rage at the end of this long ordealing process of dealing with people whose logic does doesn't meet ends correctly.

I learn a little from them too, over time, small NT things that I wouldn't have thought of, like the importance of dining together as a group at lunches---but technically, the multiculturals were my translator for this weird concept of smacking food together as a means of showing one is 'a part' of the whole--

I dont find much to talk of outside of the structure of something to talk of (such as work at work, ect) so I don't socialize. Luckily I just met a both foriegn AND asperger friend who is just like me and a day of conversation helped a lifetime of miscommunication. Is it just me???? Enter 100 life long questions here. No! me too me too!

I hope she's chatting it up on here soon too..

When you find like minded people in your present you'll have things to talk about I gather, and the current issue wont matter at those times.
My guess at it anyway.

I'm quiet most of the time unless someting realy interesting comes up.

I don't think there is a mildest form of AS. I think you either have AS or you don't, and people that do have it have varying degrees of severity. However, Severe moderate and mild AS aren't seperate diagnoses.

I talk quite a bit around people older than me, but not a whole lot around my own age group.

It has also been my experience that the more interesting the topic, the more animated I become in conversation. Even under interesting circumstances, my openness is inversely proportional to the number of people in the group.

In general I tire and get impatient with conversation more quickly if I'm on the phone. My biggest problem came with one or two friends who would call me the minute I got home from work and start to chatter. I mean, I have just left a workplace filled with annoying NTs, ringing phones, dull tasks, driven through traffic, barely got in the house, and RING RING. And without even so much as a real hello, how r u doing, is this a good time to talk, he lauches into everything that happened to him that day, in gory detail: the cafeteria was supposed to have ravioli, but they made lasagna instead (tragedy), he stopped at Walgreen's on the way home, and the toothpaste had been moved from aisle 5 to aisle 3 (fascinating), etc etc. And never so much as a "how are you doing?" ever came out of him after his diatribes over trivia. ARRRRRGH.

For me I think my talkative streak is likely due to my ADHD on top of my Aspergers, as a child I seemed to avoid talking as much as possible but my teens years brought the talking out more.

I'm natural quit around people in a group, but i try to make an effort at conversation. But it is an effort on my part, and after a while i get tired and either have to leave or zone out as someone else said. With people i know well i have times when i talk non-stop.

I'm very quiet most of the time... half the time the idea of saying something out loud doesn't even cross my mind - I have to remind myself to talk to people. And I rarely initiate conversation especially in a social context, the other person has to say something to me first.

I am told how quiet i am by my friends, friends who dont no me as well as my friends do.
Its just the way i like it, sit back and listen. If i have a point to make i will certanley make it.

I can talk for a long time if it's about something I find interesting, but all most people seem to be into is either small talk, which I have no idea how to do, or the standard mindless topics like football/what was on TV last night/what happened at the pub last night/fashion/makeup/office politics/bitching about other people behind their backs. So around 95% of the time, I'm very quiet.

I think people with AS are quiet if they are bored about something.

If they are interested, they are not as quiet.

I'm very quite, sometimes I go days at a time without uttering a word (and yes I do live with other people). When I went to a shrink to ask about AS she told me I couldn't possible have it because people with AS never shut up, anyway I'm quite so there you go.