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25 Aug 2011, 9:11 pm

Ai_Ling wrote:
I find it a waste of time if your not searching for a solution.

So do I, but it's more likely for me to figure a solution for my problems out on my own than to get one from somebody else.



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25 Aug 2011, 9:13 pm

AnonymousPasserBy wrote:
Ai_Ling wrote:
I find it a waste of time if your not searching for a solution.

So do I, but it's more likely for me to figure a solution for my problems out on my own than to get one from somebody else.


True.


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25 Aug 2011, 10:10 pm

Sparhawke wrote:
Fatal-Noogie wrote:
[b]Lets hear what Geordi La Forge has to say on the subject: 8)


I don't get it :(
There's a Jay-Z song called "99 Problems" where he says,
"If you havin' girl problems I feel bad for you son.
I got 99 problems but a b***h ain't one."
(I wouldn't have known either except I heard it on the radio once.)

I didn't make the Geordi image, and I would cite the source but I don't know who the original poster is.


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25 Aug 2011, 10:10 pm

ooOoOoOAnaOoOoOoo wrote:
I agree with the part about excessive problem pondering causes anxiety and depression. Dwelling tends to do that.


Ok. . . this is something that confuses me. I do have depression and sometimes if I have a problem I can't stop thinking about it. It goes around in my head in a circle over and over and I feel like I HAVE to talk about it or I won't be able to stop worrying about it. But if I talk about it then people say "Don't dwell on it." and I just want to be able to STOP dwelling on it. How can I stop if I can't get it out of my head?

I have had problems, especially in romantic relationships, with being told "Why are you telling me about your problems when I can't do anything to fix them?" I don't get mad at people for talking to me about their problems. I thought it was part of a friendship/relationship.

Ai_Ling wrote:
If your just talking your problems just for the sake of making yourself into a sorry case so the other person will just say "its ok" or "everything will be alright" then your probably getting no where. When people do that, it annoys me cause I feel like I just wasted my time expressing myself.

I totally agree with this. I feel like that is pointless and I feel like it is one of the worst insults for someone to tell me that I want pity or for someone to feel sorry for me. What does anyone get out of someone sitting up on a perch, looking down on them thinking "Oh, gee I feel so sorry for that person?"


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