Lia wrote:
... And i've always wondered how can i be apparently so clever yet so daft lol. I was told its because i use my IQ not for academic reasons but to simply fit in with my surroundings, to act normal and to be able to read other people. I';m not very good at either so if i didnt have the IQ I'd be worse than a vulcan at emotions lol. maybe the same is with you?
Exactly
swbluto wrote:
Neurotypicals often make assumptions which makes reasoning through the rest of the details much faster. If the assumption is wrong, they change the decision/thinking. Through a history of trial/error, they get a "feel" for which assumptions are more accurate than not, which allows them to speed up the processing speeds with experience. This is essentially how they process social situations - i.e., through the use of stereotypes and superficial to semi-superficial judgments. It can be faulty but it can make decision making pretty quick. And, in a superficial world, you don't *really* need to be accurate 100% of the time; mistakes are often easily overlooked and if it's a really critical mistake, just blow the person off - you have your own friends, anyways, after all. Who needs to please everyone with 100% accuracy? If anything, being a nit-picky pedant is a social faux pas.
What makes you think that NTs work in this way? You are assuming that NTs have to think in a way similar to you. I cannot think like an NT, and so I can't say exactly how they think. I just know that it is different to me. What I do know, because I make use of my NT colleagues' abilities, is that they are able to take in an awful lot of information and process it without thinking and rationalising about it. They have a natural situation awareness. I work particularly well with one colleague who is able to sum up changing situations in a way that I can understand. He can do this very quickly, in real time, and more accurately than me, I can then apply my reasoning skills to build successful plans and develop solutions much faster and more accurately than him.
His skills are not based on assumption, no more than mine are. If I had his situational awareness skills, I would be a genious. Unfortunately, I don't so I'll just have to remain the cleaver bloke that's a bit daft. Also, everyone needs to make assumptions from time to time, to fill in the gaps of our knowledge. I have made many a social faux pas because I have assumed wrongly about a situation. My NT friends do not have to make so many social assumptions.