Hugs: Sweet Misery

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I don't think he is, and I wouldn't even care if he was. it's just one of the thoughts that pops into my head because most of the time one would be accused of being gay. I'm surprised they don't accuse me of being gay cuz I don't go "HOLY s**t, CHECK OUT THAT HOT b***h OVER THERE" every ten seconds, or ever, for that matter.

DerStadtschutz: Speaking from working with guys in close proximity who are DEFINITELY not gay, there is a LOT of buddy buddy stuff there. I get pats on the back, touches on the shoulder, etc. NT males use touch, I imagine, to instill a paternal or fraternal reassurance for you. My workmates know I have AS and when things get hectic they tend to touch to be reassuring, unfortunately it doesn't help me any, but it's more a sign of kindness then it is: Hey you're a guy, I'm a guy, let's get a room. You know? One usually only gets accused of being gay if they're touching TOO much, like grabbing for your bum or some such. Resting their arm on you isn't very gay, it's friendly. Plus all guys are kinda gay anyway, so whatever.

Also, no, I don't get uncomfortable with that, mostly because I'm too tall for anyone to rest their arm on, but if it's a movie theatre and they put their arm on the arm rest and it's near mine I draw away, it's very disconcerting, dunno why. I do admit to being guilty of resting my elbow on people, seriously, being 6'6 it's hard not to do it.
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Blasty: See, that's exactly it. If it were a gf or bf it would be legit and probably is wonderful, but everyone else it's kind of awkward.
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Cazza: Lol, it is very difficult to get someone's arm off your shoulder, but a good way to go is to bend at the knees and duck under, if you're being teased and you don't like it, that's a good way to get out of it. If they're not teasing you about height, it's probably best to not do the ducking down thing, it's probably rude to do to someone who's trying to be friendly.

I don't like hugging people, but I've got my own hugging equivalent, which is to pick people up, bodily. People who are too heavy for me to pick up can pick me up instead. For some reason, this feels better than hugging and is not uncomfortable like hugging.

Heheh, if I initiate a hug I ALWAYS pick the other person up. I think that cost me a relationship once, actually.... o_o But it's awesome to pick people up isn't it?

On a partially related note: Does anyone else like to lay on their stomach and have someone like sit on their back or step on their back? It's not like some fetish thing, it's a pressure thing. Obviously it's hard to get anybody to do this, but the couple times I've had someone do this it's a really good feeling. I get a similar feeling when I get hug where I'm picked up, which is why this is related. XD