What psychological affect do you have on people?

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No idea. Not the slightest perception on how i am perceived by others unless they tell me or yell at me. Strangers sometimes do. But i couldn't care less.

I make people uncomfortable, either because I'm a real downer or because im manic-ish

People are generally amused by me. I'm very opinionated and have a particular brand of sarcastic humour I've developed that people seem to like - at least, I make superficial friends easily. Then again, I've been informed on several occasions that I also upset people or make them cry by being so blunt, so it's possible people don't like me as much as I think they do. I suppose I'll never know.

I piss people off or bore them, my chit chat does last long they usually move on.

Thanks! You're very kind.

I can be calm. Almost too calm to the point where I have a kind of silent intensity.

Some women find this demeanor attractive. Some find it creepy.

I mean, I'm kind of a dork too. I become captured in the moment and just look around curiously in a childlike manner. This leads to an aloofness that can amuse, anger, irritate, or intrigue the people around me.

same and apparently I bore people.

but if the topic of discussion is right they call me charming though people alienate me for being weird or different. no one ever finds it easy to take me for long periods of time except for one friend.

When I'm feeling run down or agitated, my wife gets extremely nervous or cranky in my presence. It's not very often that I radiate the sort of contentment that she can catch, but things go really well when I do.

I have a very good effect on some people. But its always different. Some people get uneasy and have trouble with pauses.

People have told me that they feel free around me and people have also told me that they are afraid to speak around me.

People have told me that being in my appartment is uncomplicated because Im not craving their attention and people have also told me that I should take more care of them when they are at my place.

If Im alone with someone I usually have a good effect on them. Groups of people who know each other become more difficult after 30 minutes of getting to know them. Thereafter Im often vitnessing a show of social hierarchies, which is boring. Groups of people I know are no problem. My friends know who I am and on them I have a good effect.

I have bad effect on some girls that see me as a challenge of their social position.

I have bad effect on some people who are too superfluous to listen to, I think because I cant hide my disinterest as I forget everything they say or start laughing of something else etc. Which is rude, I know but I cant help it and my intention is not to be rude.

I have a bad effect on my mother. She is usually nervous around me.

I become best friends with my taxi drivers sometimes. Once I brought one to the party I was going to.

I have a bad effect on people with ASPD and they have a bad effect on me.

Its not uncommon for me to go to the store and notice people seem to go out of their way to stay out of mine...I guess I give off a really evil vibe.

I'm really not sure. I think it depends on the situation, the other person/people, and what kind of day I'm having.

I've been told that I'm very easy to get along with and make people feel comfortable.....but I've also been told that I'm weird and difficult to figure out (which I think means, "you make me uncomfortable").

Ah yes, and in the streets or in public places alone, people either admire or laugh at me, and Im used to reactions because I just dont match the rest. I mean... I could, but I dont because I dont feel part of it. Its too exhausting anyway to be a part of the background.

Almost everybody I meet have seen me before. This used to drive me nuts, but its ok.

Without trying to I seem to expose people to their demons. Crazy people hate me, beautiful people love me. I just try to be friendly.

There was a thread a few days ago about being a buzzkill. I might have that effect on some people, because I can't match their level of expression. But when I am expressive, others can't match my level of expression, so they are buzzkills to me too.

i have no psychological affect on people who do not know me.

i have various effects on people i do know, but i can only determine them in a rudimentary way (due either to lack of ability to determine them, or due to insufficient consideration (i can not tell (and i can not be bothered to resolve it (i am getting bogged in details)))).

i have 2 male "friends" and 2 female friends and one girlfriend.

in no particular order:

male#1="peter". i have known him for 20 years or so, and he is somewhat (very mildly) psychopathic. he has been as financially successful as i have been, so he feels he is not inferior to me (a pleasant thing) .he is not a bad person, and he has no thoughts of malice (otherwise i certainly would not like him), but he has a similar indifference to emotional aspects of society as i do.

he laughs and becomes extremely amused when he questions me about things and i give him answers with the emotional intensity of a lizard talking about an injured fly.

he seems to use me as a form of entertainment (which i am quite happy with). he is my age, but i think he had role models when he was a child that were heartless and ruthless, and he seems to glean those 2 "qualities" from my conversation (of course he is wrong).

sometimes i say things in a humorous way to him and he becomes incapacitated with laughter which is also something i understand because i also will laugh until i become worried about my blood oxygen levels.

an example is: he asked me to pretend to be a doctor giving a patient in my office the news that they have a rapidly terminal illness.

so, because i like him, i did an act which went like this:

me: yes janet come in. sit down.

(janet sits)

me: well we have the results of your tests in, and there is good news and bad news. which news do you want to hear first?

janet: (who is an optimist) ahh....the good news first?

me: ok, well the good news is that you do not have the flu.

janet: oh boy (majorly worried).

me: and the bad news is that you have pancreatic cancer that is inoperable.

janet: oh my god

me: well another bit of good news is that you have 3 months to get your affairs in order.
look on the bright side. if you had dropped dead from a stroke or a heart attack, then you would have
not have had this golden opportunity of 3 months warning to get things sorted out.

(janet does not get up and leave)

me: anyway, thanks. good luck.

(janet still does not get up)

me: is there anything else i can help you with?

peter likes that style of script, and so my psychological influence on him is to make him laugh.

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male2="mark" (which is also my name): i have known him for 25 years (since i was i was 13-14).
he always had some element of grandiosity in his personality. he believes he is vastly more powerful than me, but over time, he has decided he may not have the same logical capacity that i have, but his reaction to that was that he ascribed "logic" to the realm of "materialism", and he sees that i have no propensity for "spirituality" (eg. because i do not subscribe to his "vibes" poppycock).

he is quite paranoid. he has a lot of pride, and he always thought he was better than me, but now he works for me.

he imagines that i internally gloat about that, but to me it is just an inevitable unfolding of evolution. he hates that attitude, but he nevertheless sticks to me like a parasite.

he says his iq is 140+. wow. so i have a parasite sucking on me with an iq of 140+? all the more reason for me to disinfect.

but because i did not only not disinfect myself, but i also gave him a job means that i am a very "nice person" as he sufferably has to concede (at my insistence) because i pay his rent.

that is how he sees me and that is not how i am. i have serious psychological influence on the "mark" person, and i must confess i am worried he will go beserk about me one day. he thinks i have an extreme intellect, and he thinks he has an extreme spiritual capacity, and the thinks i am profoundly "spiritually ret*d", but all i want him to do is drive the f*cking truck.


i do not really like my friends, and they do not really like me
i am tired of talking about this topic although there is much more to say about the female fiends.

Last edited by b9 on 27 Sep 2011, 1:51 pm, edited 1 time in total.

People don't change their mood when I speak, only occasionally this happens.