Autism = thin skins?

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I'm like a cooked pea. I have a thin skin and I'm mushy on the inside.

This x 1000%. SWBluto's posts are often suspiciously troll-like many times does not equate to Autsitic people having thin skins. My posts do not get locked down and people have more understanding for my directness here than any other board I've been on.

Of course, that would NEVER happen here.

After spending a lot of time at Babycenter, I have learned the real difference between NT boards and autism boards. This place is mild compared to over there. Ask a question over there, lot of women freak out and do rude responses and mock the OP and act like the question wasn't even a simple question and the OP was just judging or had some agenda. They also do hostile responses. But here, ask a question, you get rational answers and it's not the same as over there when users here get offended or mock the OP or do a rude response. But honestly I have never seen another place that was bad as Babycenter. I have finally lost interest in that place because I can't remember the last time I have lurked there and read a thread. I guess I got tired of all the thick behavior.

Yes, those who tend to be more "NT" are particularly prone to tribal behavior. If there's some kind of way they detect you're an outsider because it doesn't fit the thinking or speech norms, they freak out and use all sorts of behaviors to exclude you, including making up offenses and mocking you, regardless of the question/topic's "validity".

I'm very thin skinned about nasty juvenile trolls

Who get off by suckering people in to their misleading and two faced rhetoric

Its one of the forgotten commandments

'Do not put a stumbling block before others to trip over'

Can you point me to the threads you're insinuating? Are you talking about that Dark_lord guy?

Personally in my experience NT forums have been about who can verbally abuse each other the most.

I prefer this place. Actually no, I prefer ADD forum, but that's more of a personal thing.

On this forum, it is a good idea not to read between the lines, because there is no information between the lines. All the information is on the lines themselves. The only time that I wanted anyone to read between the lines was on the parents' forum, when some parents complained about the verbal stimming of their autistic children and wanted to make a deal with their children to control the verbal stimming so they the parents could have some peace and quiet, and I suggested that they the parents get some earplugs to block out the noise if the noise bothered them, and also to read between the lines of my suggestion, but I don't know if they the parents successfuly read between the lines to pick up on my hidden messages.

Was the "between the lines" meaning basically "deal with it, it's not going to change"?

The message I'm reading between these lines is "NOT!".

... Is "Thin skinned" and idiom...?

Either way, I see we're actually talking about people who get their feelings easily hurt. Personally I find NT's to be more sensitive than most people I know on the spectrum when it comes to arguments and threads being "ok" on one forum and not on the other..

No, it wasn't that. I actually told them that it would probably stop by itself at some point, perhaps in a few months.

The thing with hidden messages is that they cannot be verbalized. Otherwise, they lose their GLIMMER. However, since I am not NT, I will verbalize the hidden message as, "Not so eezy breezy to be in your kids' shoes, is it? Maybe you shouldn't expect them to stop to make you more comfortable. Maybe you should just suck it up and do what they have to do to survive in your world, i.e. wear the earplugs."

I have no idea what this means.

Yes. It means being sensitive to criticism, easily hurt etc.

I managed to last for many years on Livejournal rant communities. The mental negativity it produced ended up getting so bad that I had to write them off entirely.

The peaceful nature of this forum and the jovial one over at Fundies Say The Darndest Things are refreshing. It's awesome to not see side-taking anymore. And the fact that we don't have any token "popular girls/guys" over here makes me happy. I hate feeling like each comment is a contest.

Also, I hope no one here would get pissy over someone interjecting in an exchange that they were having with one other user. That happened in one of those aforementioned rant forums, and my mind is still darkened by the memory. It's a public message board... private messages exist for a reason! Gah.

Now, speaking of thin-skinned... I am indeed affected when I'm presented with a harsh response to something I posted. I normally apologize. But in my experience, most people were more sensitive than I am. More prone to attacking back and taking offense to everything that anyone said. Once, I posted a comment that I still consider naive at worst, and got an inbox full of rage by 8 users.