How do you know who to trust?

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Well I can usually feel it......if I get a bad feeling around someone then I don't trust them, I have tried to overlook that feeling in the past becuase I don't like to be judgemental and every time I ignore it the person in question either screws me over or just decides they don't want anything to do with me anymore.

I don't know who to trust anymore, so I feel each person out for a couple of weeks by talking to them before I can decide whether I can trust them or not.

Oh, that's easy: nobody.

I sadly trust people really quickly and i give thousands of chances
i have no idea who i can trust.. i usually think like.. people who are lonely don't have lots of people to tell it to. and before friending people i always observe them from a distance.

I don't know how to answer this. Every time I get comfortable with trusting people again someone hurts me very badly and I'm back to square one. Just happened again a while back, and now I'm back to not trusting anybody. When I get really close to someone, friendship or romance wise, and they reject me and refuse to talk to me, it is like the worst thing anyone can do to me and I end up not trusting anybody for YEARS and I isolate myself. I'm trying very hard not to stay in this place because I've been here before and I don't like it. It sucks.

~Kate

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Wow! What a fantastic response: thanks guys.

I really do want to be able to trust everyone, and by my nature I do- I'm not paranoid at all.

The thing is, I've been in my job for over a year now, and it's taken me this long to start to make friends: I would now say I have 3 people I class as friends at work and therefore would trust them. However, within the last week, one of these friends (Friend A), told me that I should watch what I say to friend B as I shouldn't trust her so much. Then friend B told me I had to be careful about what I was saying to people, and hinted that friend A and friend C and another sort of friend couldn't be trusted. I have no idea who is right- I want to trust both of them and speak my mind (as I'm prone to do quite honestly!), but now I'm wary of saying anything important to either of them.
It's really frustrating and it's starting to get me down, mostly because once again my characteristics related to my AS are starting to cause me problems, and it keeps happening more and more often. I don't feel now like I can talk to anyone about anything important, and feel like my friends who I spent time and effort getting to know cannot be trusted. I'm back to relying on only myself and trusting only myself, and that's a rubbish place to be.

A safe rule is that people who tell you that you can trust them will almost alway betray that trust.