Being an NT sucks

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I just sometimes feel that I don't know anything, and so can't offer any advice or suggestions to other people's thoughts or problems. It's not that I don't empathise or sympathise or whatever the word is. I can imagine how they feel or whatever, or I try to, but when somebody's harping on about their problems, I just find myself saying ''yes'' and ''no'' all the time, and nothing else.
My friend has got a lot of s**t from the council because of something to do with her house and the amount of money she was getting and so on, and I feel cross with the council too for sending her all of these letters, and I put on an impression that I'm upset for her, which is easy enough, but because I don't know how the council and all that type of thing works, so I can't offer any suggestions of what she should do. I just keep saying, ''oh that's not very nice'', and, ''what are they playing at?'' and, ''they've got no right'' and stuff like that. I can't really say too much in case I say the wrong thing and feel stupid. But when she told another friend, the friend was like, ''well why don't you do so-and-so? They should sort it out and send you a letter saying so-and-so, and you should be getting XXXX money anyway, and the best number to phone is this because that company is pretty good''.....and so on. Other people just seem to know what to suggest and how to help, whereas I'd just come out with something what I've probably already been told and then it makes me look so vaige and stupid.

That really sucks.

Deep down I'm lonely and want to fit in, but over the years I've learned to ignore it and am comfortable being alone.

An NT should write a book about NTs for autistic people, like Temple Grandin writes books about autistics for NT people.

The more I think about this the more I realize I have the best of both worlds.

Can an Aspie develop dissociation from not socializing enough?

Robots, eh?

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Enough said. Stereotypes suck.

As for the rest. Depression and anxiety disorders are common co- morbids, and we typically can't focus on anything that doesn't interest us, NT's can.

I read somewhere that depression and anxiety was common in Autistics. One site tells me one thing and another site tells me another thing.

I think that anxiety and depression are common in autistics, because there is a major mismatch between the desire to socialize and fit in and the ability to the same. In NTs, the mismatch ranges from nearly non-existent to not as major as it is in autistics. In some autistics, the mismatch is also nearly non-existent, because some autistics have very little of the desire along with very little of the ability.

If you think being a NT sucks, well, being an Aspie sucks too! What sucks is wanting to have friends at a young age, but not knowing how to act appropriately, not knowing how to respond to others in social situations. Which leads to a downward spiral into depression as you fail time and time again to make friends. Soon you're a teen, and while everyone else is getting romantically involved for the first time in their lives, you spend your days questioning whether life is worth living anymore. Eventually, you learn to accept that you have autism, accept the fact that socializing comes naturally to many people but you're not one of those people. Maybe you're one of the lucky Aspies who can navigate the dating scene well enough to find a suitable partner. Maybe you're 35, still live with your parents, and spend your days watching anime tentacle porn. My point is that being an Aspie isn't as simple as having an interest and pursuing it robotically, with disregard for others. We feel every emotion NT's do; we're not robots.