What does being "unable to lie" mean?

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Like the flat tire example above, I can do that. I can distort the truth and let people come to their own conclusions. Basically, I can rationalize the lie. I also can lie by omission. To outright lie about something, I am not good at. I will get caught 100% of the time, so I just don't lie.

When people ask me if I can lie, I say yes, but I don't lie because I am really bad at it. The closest I can come to a lie is omission. To me, rationalizing is not really lying if people are coming to their own conclusions from what you said. Maybe that is bad of me, but that's how it is. I do lie about mythological creatures to my young children because it is fun. Then they find out the truth and the back lash can be fun to watch, although y sister did have a point when she found out about Santa: "You mean, adults LIE to little kids?? That's so wrong!!"

I am a compulsive liar with Aspergers. I have Aspergers and I find it hard to tell the truth. Aspergers is my badge of honour.

So I am the polar opposite of the typical person on WP who has Aspergers. Having Aspergers makes us all special unique snow flakes.

A workmate recently asked me who I thought was older. Her or another worker. I said that I thought she was older. She got upset that I had said that. I probably was expected to say that the other woman was older or just say that I wasn't sure. I understand this, but I still stand by the truth- She does look older. And why would you ask me if you don't want an answer. I think this is what they mean when they say we are "unable to lie". I'm all about the facts.

I've always been told my face is too expressive for me to get away with lying.

It seems to me that other people, for example, when asked a question, tend to go through multiple choice answers in their mind:

1 - tell the truth
2 - bend the truth a little bit
3 - make something up

For me, in a given situation, the idea that I should lie, just doesn't occur to me. My 1st inclination is to tell the truth. So in order to tell a lie, it takes much more effort, which seems to come easier to NTs. I also think it's more difficult for an Aspie to back up a lie with the correct body language and social cues. We just aren't as believable when lying.

When people say they don't have common sense, they don't really mean it. They mean they aren't good at it as society expects them to be.

When people say they can't read between the lines, they mean they have troubles with it or aren't good at it or can't do it all the time like everyone else so they need help by needing things spelled out to them

When people say they can't smile or are unable to, they mean they don't like doing it because their don't like how their smiles look or because they don't feel comfortable doing it or that it doesn't come natural to them

When people say they are unable to argue or can't argue they mean it's too much mental energy for them or it stresses them out so they refuse to do it. They also can mean they don't like doing it and it upsets them too much when they get into an argument so they try and avoid them all they can.

And of course when people say they can't lie or are unable to, they mean the truth always comes out first or lying doesn't come natural to them so they have to think ahead of time to lie or they are not good at it because people can tell they are lying.

Even aspies don't always say what they mean either but no such thing as 100% aspie anyway. No such thing as being 100% literal either. Sometimes I am just too pedantic with my words.

I find it easy to lie convincingly.

I feel so bad inside if I lie, like a mouth is in my head screaming out the truth. Also I just don't understand lying and I find honesty makes sense in any situation, as long as you aren't brutal about it. I would rather be an honest as*hole than a fake nice person.