Do children/teenagers agitate you?

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I'm extremely tolerant of most people. It's when they try to set me off on purpose that I get pissed.

I adore kids, mostly because they don't judge me.

I adore children under 12 with my favorite range being about 3-9. teenagers and up are much harder for me to deal with. Teenagers especially confuse me. Adults bring their own issues in. That said, I plan to create a career working with children so it's working out ok for me.

I'm 20, and pretty much can't seem to get along with people my own age very well at all. Obviously, individual exceptions, and my friends, but overall, I can't "connect" well with them. They're idiots. I tend to be much better with people in their late 20s and beyond, and I 90%+ of the time feel almost perfectly at ease with someone who's like, middle aged.

So yes, OP, as one of those teenagers, I get what you're saying completely.

I might as well be like a 20 year old James May or something.

i am a teenager myself but i hate it how most of them are just so stupid and ignorant, makes me ask what sense evolution had

They do agitate me, in fact there's a much more far reaching issue than just agitation. I stay away from children and teenagers at all costs, because there are practical, deep reasons for me to do so. In fact I recently moved house because the antisocial behaviour where I previously lived was too much, and when moving to where I live now it was because I knew there'd be few children around there.

Also when I'm out and about I'll avoid walking near children or teenagers at all costs. At times when that's absolutely unavoidable, however, almost always nothing happens to me, almost always nothing will be said to me. Inwardly, I'm ego-wrecked. Inwardly, I'm totally terrified. But outwardly, I must be doing a good job of appearing confident considering I'm not being targeted by the youngsters. And that's what you have to do; if youngsters hassle you, it's probably because you don't appear very confident and they can and will seize upon that.

Children up until about age 15 really irritate me. Their movements are so quick and they are far too loud. Plus I find their behavior unpredictable; I can't relate to them at all.
Teenagers don't bother me so much.

What kind of children are that? Every child I've met has been very judgemental, going so far as ostracising another child because they don't like his/her clothes.

Children are less of a handfull all in all, if you can assert yourself dominantly. Teenagers are mind-numbingly boring though, they're either full of angst or completely consumed by some arbitrary aspect of pop culture.

That's based on my personal and limited experience of course.

With tolerant kids or with Aspies, it's easy. But I don't know what to do with kids. I'm embarassed when I'm with a kid, it's not easier than with others humans.

If I'm with a child for something special, and if we're just two, it's right. But if they are others kids that are doing too much noise, I can't focus, sometimes I have meltdowns.

If I'm with a kid and if this is for something special, help him to work for the exemple, it's easier, but otherwise, it's more difficult if I'm with a kid than if I'm with an adult. Adults are more... self-possessed. In contrast with kids, with adults I can hear myself think. I'm too slow for kids.

Meow.

I've found that below the age of 10, kids are not very judgmental, and then ages 10-16 are the worst for being judgmental.

I like polite children, they're fine one on one but generally, I'm not a fan of children or teenagers, and babies even less so (they're mundane and all look the same to me). What I like even less however, is the child-centred nature of society and the attitude of some parents. I have never wanted children, it's hard enough to look after myself! But occasionally I will meet a child who seems different to the bratty norm and makes me think that kids are tolerable. The same applies to teenagers and adults. It seems that those who are 'different' and not herd-minded are the ones I most enjoy the company of.

I agree with you. Kids have always picked at my flaws and made fun of me.

Last edited by Sparx on 28 Oct 2011, 2:59 pm, edited 1 time in total.

My own daughter is a lot of work, but I don't get agitated by her. Of course, as she's likely to get a diagnosis of AS, she's not typical. But, I get annoyed at the way other kids react to her. From my experience, young kids can be judgemental. I didn't expect it to happen quite so soon (she's only 5yrs), but it has - I'm sure kids are getting younger when they acquire this streak. My friend told me that her 6yr old son asked if he could get a new schoolbag. She said it was still good and asked why he wanted one. He said that some kids in his class said to him that he had that bag last year and that he should have a new one. She's too sensible to bow to pressure, but he's upset. Kids says those sort of things to my daughter, but she doesn't care (for now anyway).

Teenagers can be a bit annoying - I mean the typical kind, screaming when they meet their friends, walking 4 abreadth, blocking the way ahead, throwing litter all over the place (I've travelled and this country is by far the worse that I've been to, for teenage litterbugs). My daughter (who is only 5yrs old) will tut and say, 'Teenagers, they are so annoying, I'm not going to be like that when I'm older' and I believe her.

Babies: FML
Little kids: If I must...
Older kids: Not a problem
Most other teenagers: I'd rather be in hell

For starters, all humans are judgmental. There, that's out. Now, most kids and teenagers are very openly judgmental, because people learn to control their urges in their teenage years. Adults judge just as badly, but not as openly.
Personally, I find normal kids much easier to deal with. I don't need to know them, I can just jump into conversation, make a quick joke on my behalf to lower their defenses, etc. It's easy, especially at parties or social gatherings. For some reasons, Aspies seem to want to talk about something substantial. Honestly, I don't see talking as anything more than a social gesture. I could take that further, but I like keeping a coherent story with not too many tangents.
I'll rate my liking of people by age group:
1. Young children
2. Teenagers
3. Older children
4. Adults
I really dislike adults, especially those in positions of authority. I always seem to get off on the wrong foot with them.