Difference between joining in and butting in?

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I feel the EXACT same way. Even my own family does this to me.
I get accused of interrupting and very occasionally I can see that yes, I was rude, and I apologise -- but often, I feel as though I were just joining in the conversation and I get cut off, told I'm being rude, and talked over. The problem is, other people do it to ME, and I don't consider it interrupting as long as I can go back into what I had been saying before their comment.

When I try waiting for a pause in conversation so I can have my turn to speak, a lot of times it never seems to happen... and by the time I feel like I can talk without interrupting, the conversation has moved WAY, way past what I had wanted to say. I don't understand how people expect me to be able to join in if they keep moving along without giving me a fair turn, but getting angry with me when I try to chime in while they're still on the topic I want to comment on.

And honestly, I may go on and on when I type online, but I do a pretty good job at keeping my real-life talking short and entertaining. I used to go on and on forever, and realised I was boring people so I've gotten a lot better at it.

I've started staying out of a lot of conversations because of the fear that I'll be interrupting. I don't get accused of it all the time, so I know it isn't habitual for me. But it's often enough and usually in situations where I don't understand how I was interrupting.