Fear of being 'found out?'

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I only tell people I don't want to talk to any more unfortunately they never seem to get the hint though lol :p

I'd be chatting to a few as*holes on IM and then they all of a sudden ask me what mental disorder do I have and I would tell them I have Asperger's and then they would insult me and then log off. I always found that funny and learned that is a way to scare them off.

Unless I was in a situation where it was important for people to know, then I wouldn't bother telling others about my ASD.

I'm a self dio (I feel that I fit a lot of the things that are associated with AS, and a HS psychologist said it most likely have it).

Anyway, with that being said, I only bring it up when its reverent, like at work for example and only to some people. I have the tendency to stare at people and don't want to be mistaken for a pervert, creepy guy, I have little to no interest in the people I do this to the most, its so frustrating, I just go there to do my job ,go home and after two weeks get by paycheck to spend on my special interest lol... and save. This staring part of AS is what gets the best of me the most.

I read a lawyer with AS got fired because he kept staring at a coworker and he never told his employer than he had AS, so, long story short, he was screwed.

I don't tell people randomly. My friend sometimes does, when I'm introduced to new people (I never think to say it). In some ways it's ok, if the person knows what it is, then they know to respect my boundaries and not to touch me, but other people can say hurtful things or poke fun, or it just doesn't help the situation. Most of my acquaintances already know I have it, but they don't actually know what it is or how it affects me.

So the general idea seems to be, don't advertise it, but be honest if someone asks. This makes sense to me. I imagine that no-one would ask unless there was an important reason for them to know.

You know, I have met a few people who seem to be all "hi I'm xxxx, I have AS/some variety of mental disorder." in my time. I don't understand that approach at all. Maybe they're trying to start a conversation?

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I don't really fear being found out. My friends and most of my acquaintances no. Some don't and for various reasons I am unlikely to say unless it becomes relevant.

I don't announce it to everyone, but if the topic comes up I will discuss it. I am not ashamed but I feel that it is a private matter.

So, you tell people you have an ASD and then you want them to take a "hint" that you don't want to be talked to. That doesn't make sense, if you told me that I would want to talk to you more. Stop the hinting, direct communication is the better way.