ClassicAutism89 wrote:
It is hard for some people in the spectrum to learn to have efficient communications skills necessary for the world today. When I was at the casino there was this girl at star bucks who I thought was really awesome. She was a chit-chit social butterfly and we just kept on talking. I kept really good eye contact since I know its important and was really hard to keep my eyes off her anyways. I left and gave my mom her coffee and found an excise to go back and give her my number..then someone else was there and I got nervous and never gave her my number. If she was by herself I would of done it certainly.
I just wanted to be friends with her, nothing more then that since I have a girlfriend already. We had a lot in common. This was a rare occurrence though, I haven't had that deep of a conversation with someone for quiet some time now. In college when I tried one class then left right in the mid-semester because I thought the professor was horrible. During that time though I tried making some friends, it was really hard since it was class and they where talking to other people ect..I think it just frustrates me more then anything else.
I just think autistic people just need training and more importantly experience and force themselves out of there comfort zones to try and socialize. Even though it may feel like you might as well put all about your personal life in a major news paper or tell everyone how you take showers on CNN prime time national TV. Although take it with a grain of salt since I can't hardly do that myself.
Well, yes and no. The problem I had was, I'm not some basement dwelling loser who never does anything ever. Probably if you were to just glance at me in public, Aspergers would be the last thing you'd think. Many people on this board would probably think I was a dreaded NT, by the way I dress, and the fact that for a short time, I can communicate quite well and effectively. However, the problem is, when people become friends with me, that's sorta when my true colors show, and my "Aspie"ness comes into play. My problem with socializing is, I'm basically ambiverted. I go through periods seemingly at random of introversion and extroversion. That, and basically, what happens is with people, I make a good initial impression, but then as I people get to know me, they think I'm weird. So, it's not lack of initial skills, I'll talk to people in public all the time and be really outgoing and whatever, but once they get to know me, yeah...
So basically, I've learned enough from experience to know that. Just the problem is, I'm terribly odd and though I cover it up very well with preppy clothes, hygiene, etc, in public, once people start knowing me better, it all shows. It's the same with relationships, I could probably do really well if I just wanted to one night stand a bunch of different girls, but having one consistently love me for who I am, yeah...
14 Nov 2011, 2:32 pm
