If I get diagnosed with autism...

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i think you and i have different definitions of "polite". i mean things like not burping without saying your sorry and saying please and thank you, things folks with autism can learn fairly easily if inclined, not all the intricasies of social interaction, which also can be learned, but take a lot longer.

Your location says...

"In the Andes, counting the stars and wondering if one of them is home to another civilization."

That's autism. Right there. We may or may not be socially ret*d, but I'm willing to bet it was an autistic person that first wondered that question. It will be an autistic person who first discovers the answer.

No one remembers the person who didn't struggle. You'll find your way. Keep your chin up... and pay attention to the stars.

For a 24 year old there's plenty of room for improvement. The older you get, the more experience you'll have. Learned abilities include social behavior, basically, how NOT to be rude, at least not all the time, and just as importantly, how to achieve your goals via socialization. Social "glitches" happen, nonetheless, and I think they always will, no matter how hard one tries. Some situations are just plain difficult to handle without enough precedence. Furthermore, autistics are somewhat lost in the jungle of continuously changing unwritten social rules and prone to fall to their own odd ideas (odd in the eyes of other people) or suffer their weak social radar.

I'm expecting some help from my diagnosis (if a finally get one), mainly in the area of romantic relationships / marriage / having a family. Maybe getting some help how to deal with problematic coworkers / bullying would be useful, too.

Your definition of "autism" is extremely restrictive here. Nowhere in the criteria does it demand that autistic people be "rude." It is a common experience for autistic people to be treated as if we're being rude when we have no idea that is the case. But it is not the only possible experience.

And even though this has been said before: Putting anyone in a position to defend themselves like this is pretty rude. There's no point to questioning whether cathylynn is autistic.

And yeah, it's pretty easy to learn social niceties like "please" and "thank you" and "excuse me." Learning them is not entirely linked to upbringing, as a lot of stuff may simply not take for other reasons.