do you get taken advantage of?

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I used to get bullied as well. Beat up, threatened, verbally abused by other school kids. I was and still am a very wimpy, lanky, short person. But, I feel that now any one who threatens me will get slapped the s**t out of, and anyone who tries to make fun of me will get clowned so hard with puns, double entendres, and multis that they would run home to moms to cry about it. Rap is a blessing. It makes people respect you, and puts a tough exterior around you that makes people not want to mess with you.

Been taken advantage of by -every- NT person I ever tried to befriend, or was related to, with the exception of my wife, and one friend who just doesnt seem quite NT to me, but technically is.
Childhood and school years were terrible, but that was back when if you could talk, you didnt have autism. Those were the physical bully-magnet years, which would evolve into less physical, more "lets pretend we like him so we can get him to do" whatever they wanted.
After I dropped out of college to focus on work, employers loved to take advantage of my focus - but always freaked out when they realized I wasnt "like them." usually projecting their worst fears onto me in the process, always costing me jobs. At least I learned how to make some money off the process.
The people I called "friends" for many years were the people that called me - and there was always some string attached that I'd try to overlook.... But that only allowed situations to worsen.
Ill also mention that working for a "friend" is a good way to find out if they really give a crap, or are just taking advantage of you. Real friends care, phony friends arent worth the carbon and water that comprises them. Ill certainly take one or two real friends over dozens of superficial morons.

It is amazing how NT's can be so easily impressed by ability, yet still wind up interpreting it as weakness.
At least focus, intelligence, and perseverance are usually a winning combination in the end, and other than perhaps employment, you cant take anything away from someone who has nothing to lose because some NT already took it...

There is a saying that the people who are likely to screw you over are the ones who know you. They can be your spouse, "close friend", and even acquaintances.

To me it's been that way. It was my own father manipulating me to the point that he transferred over $100K of debt onto my credit cards. I had to eventually file for chapter 7 and won't be able to clear my history until 2021. How facked up is that?

For the most part, family members try to play like they care about me and try to give me advice that will benefit me but I can't be better than them. They tell me I would do great in the food business but I tell them they can't tell me what to do and say to them I wanna be a lawyer (not really but I said it to test their reaction)....Their immediate reaction is that I don't have the chops to be one in that hostile smug tone.

In college, I had a friend who saw i was awkward. He was an NT and was treating as though I was his "project." Bad choice. He coat tail rid me for free homework and saw himself as superior to me.

Well I could go on and on...But the gist of it was in the first sentence of the post. Don't trust those close to you who say they care and want you to trust them. I learned the hard way.

People certainly try to take advantage of me, and sometimes they succeed. I've become less trusting, more suspicious and better at detecting things like that with age, so people don't succeed at it nearly as often anymore as they used to, but it still happens occasionally. What really annoys me is that people constantly try it though.

I had a ''friend'' in college who was so demanding, and was also immature for her age. She had learning difficulties, but she wasn't a very nice person either. She wasn't any good at keeping friends because she was very hard work, and I think she started to realise that, so she started getting friendly with people who had other disabilities. So she picked me, and she was OK at first, but even I started to realise how hard work she was and so I grew sick of her. So when I started saying ''no'' to her and being a little more assertive, she didn't like it because I wasn't there for her to control - so I got bullied for it. I am not friends with her now (and I'm not naive enough to go running back to her), but I've seen her around and she now hangs with a mentally challenged boy. I can tell he has mild mental retardation because he's one of those people who you can tell he's ret*d just by looking at him and his body language and everything. I feel quite sorry for him for having such a b***h for a friend, but at least I'm away from her now and have better friends.

I feel the same way. People are often taking advantage of me, and I do not see it until it is to late. It has come to the point I trust very little. I think the last time I got taken advantage of was recently when they disguised it by doing me one favor and then just taking and taking and taking. I have to learn to say no...even to the people I care about.

It's hard, and it hurts.

I've had a frienemy who took advantage of me between the Summer of 2009 and the May of 2010. She took advantage of me every way that she could. She even phoned the ambulance on me for being the way that I am. That little b***h is no longer my friend. I've had a lot of free time that I enjoy since she's asked me not to phone her, any more.

As a child, yes, as an early teenager, yes, currently, perhaps, but not as much as I used to be.

I used to be a really easy target to take advantage of, as I was more naieve and would see almost everybody as a friend. As I started growing up, I did start to realise that people weren't always a friend, and that there were people that were trying to take advantage of me. I remember one person who seemingly was only being my friend just so he could get access to some of my stuff.

Not really, perhaps more so because I really don't offer anything that anyone would want, rather than being weak or naive or anything like that. Only time I was ever used was as some sort of sick joke, but I left that knowing I'm a better person than they are.

I've had to train myself to take anything someone says to me with a grain of salt. A large, jagged grain of salt.

People used to think my gullible-ness was hilarious and would exploit it any way they could at my expense.

Then, I got tired of it, and started being highly skeptical, cynical and distrusting. I haven't been fooled since. People don't try to mess with me now, probably at the expense of having a bunch of superfluous "acquaintance" friends, and instead, people who have to actually make an effort to gain my trust. They have to prove themselves.

It's better that way.

Happens all the time. For a long time, I was so desperate for friends that I'd put up with anything, just as long as the person was nice to me. I just kinda thought of having my stuff stolen, or being used (then ditched as soon as I was no longer needed), or having confidences broken, was part of the whole "having friends" thing. Cost of doing business.

Made sense, my behavior would drive away anyone who didn't want something from me. The only people who'd stick by me were those who were getting some use out of me. So I came to define myself in those terms. The more useful I was, the better friend I must be, so I went out of my way to be as useful and accomodating as I could be. Which, honestly, is just asking for people to take advantage.

Thankfully, now I have someone who looks out for me when it comes to that. Who'll tell me when someone isn't acting like a real friend. Now I just have to learn how to not push away the decent people. How to get those, who would want me around for the right reasons, to want me around.

Countless times. I was bullied quite a lot in both elementary and high school.

As a young, attractive woman, I have also been in scenarios where I craved intimacy and friendship so much that I allowed myself to be pushed around by sadistic and power hungry guys, who would use me for their personal satisfaction. Now that I can clearly see that these situations are not rewarding for myself, I no longer enter into them.

Yeah, I know this all too well. I've attracted a few crazies in my time. I used to believe in the goodness of human beings but now I'm just cynical about human nature. I've always gotten the people back though, and it feels nice because they never see it coming. Or sometimes I'll go along with it just to see how far they go and then I'll attack them or something. What I've found is the people who usually try to take advantage usually have problems themselves: insecurity, self-esteem, were used in the past etc. I guess I seem like a safe person lol. People like to tell me their problems a lot. I just listen, often I don't care lol.

The only reason why I get taken advantage of by people is because I find it difficult to stand up for myself and they know it. I am too soft and too passive.

Oh, I'm very easily taken advantage of....not bcuz I'm gullible, but bcuz I'm a very, very sensitive and kindhearted soul. I once ended up almost wiring the British equivalent of $2,000 to some email hacker bcuz he'd hacked my friend's email account and sent me a fake email saying she was stranded with her family in Britain after being mugged. I truly would have done it if I hadn't shown the email to my mom and stepdad and they told me it was a scam.

That's just the most recent/outstanding example of how certain people have preyed upon my good nature.

Probably less than most NT's because I don't trust anybody. It's a pretty f****d up way to live but it is what it is. Last time I was taken advantage of was about 8 years ago by a well known former TV actor who was subsequently convicted of multiple counts of fraud (not just me). That guy could sell sand to the saudis but he had fame and acting ability going for him.