Do you have an active love life?

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I'm clingy but incredibly picky about who I find worth it at all.

I suppose I'm clingy. I used to have an active sex life, but I've been married for over 25 years, and over time.........

Frances

I'm single and content to be so.

Both. Either my ex was irritated because I wanted to be with him or he thought I was cold, cryptic and distant. I guess he never knew me, and I was trying so hard to be normal, maybe I never knew him.

The poll doesn't really match the thread title.
The poll options assume someone actually does have an active love life, and if they are clingy or distant in that love life.
There should be a third poll option for no love life.
Or change the thread title to "how are you in your love life?"

me?
I have no love life. I gave up the "chase" a few years ago. I figure if a woman really wants me, she can pursue me.
I'm just not a "player" of any kind. I'm too afraid of rejection to actually ask any women out on dates. And anyhow, having been out of work for so long, I figure what woman wants to date some chronically unemployed guy.

I've also gotten the "just friends" line way too many times.

The last relationship I was in was from 1995-2000 with a very clingy woman. I actually think that clingyness pushes someone away. I became more and more distant as the relationship went on.

I like to have my space, my alone time. A relationship would bring an extra unpredictable element to my life and upset all my routines. I'm not sure if I really want that.

But then on the other hand. I'm human, I have human needs, I can't help but get attracted to women.
But when that happens, I push it out of my head. No need to get all worked up over someone just to get a big let down.

I may be an attractive guy, but for some reason when women meet me they just think "friend". I don't set off a spark in them. Or maybe more realistically, I have no idea how to tell if I set off that spark.

I also have a lot of "deal breakers".
no non smokers, been there done that, all they do is give me crap about my smoking.
no dogs (as pets). I may like other people's dogs, but I never want to live with one.
no kids. When kids are around, it's all about them. I don't want to deal with that.
She has to be spiritually compatible, meaning no church goers. Definitely no "born again christians"... ugh!
She can't be allergic to cats, I love having kitties around.

That pretty much reduces my choices to very few.

So, I must accept a life without romance.

Ha, nope. I only leave my apartment to go to class, buy food, and do laundry. I spend the rest of my time playing video games, studying, and reading about quantum mechanics. I don't really have the time or the inclination for any kind of socializing, but before I became a complete asocial shut-in, I dated a guy when I was sixteen for about five months. I ended up feeling terribly guilty because he wanted to talk on the phone at least every other day and see me outside of school once a week, and I needed my space. Then I realized that I'm just probably not the relationship type.

Nope, no active life love. I had an online relationship once but then I broke it off because there was no chance of ever meeting her because she would never meet me halfway on most things. I eventually said some things to her that pissed her off to the point she didn't want to talk to me again. And then I had some quasi-relationship that lasted a weekend before I got the "let's just be friends" sprung on me and then proceeded to never want to be a friend. I don't talk to her anymore either. I voted N/A in the vote because it seemed to imply I had to have a relationship, and I mean an actual relationship because online relationships and quasi-relationships aren't actual relationships. Frankly, I don't care for a relationship right now. I can always change my mind in the future but right now; I'm dead set on not caring if I ever have a relationship.

Nope, and I'm not interested right now either. I can't say that all my peers feel the same way about me though. I've heard crazy rumors about me being a mega player.

I do not have any sort of love life, I have never been romantically attracted to someone nor have I ever been in any sort of romantic relationship. I don't know how I would react to a relationship.

I have one with a boyfriend of 2 years. I am both clingy and distant depending on the day (mostly distant after the initial few months). Thankfully, he is similar. We entertain ourselves, even when in the same room.

Yes I do and I'm most of the time clingy, sometimes distant.

I'm distant. I am not sexually active and I don't need sex to be happy and I don't need someone around all the time to keep me happy. But I have been with my husband for four years. I have been clingy before when I was pregnant and when I had a miscarriage.

But my last ex was clingy because he always wanted me to give him affection and show it and it was a chore. Even my first ex was clingy too. They were just too needy.

I have an active love life so to speak. I am trying to learn to love myself. It's long life endeavor.

No

I was never blessed with the gift of handling a relationship lock, stock and barrel. What I can validly offer in one instance often tends to be swallowed by a seemingly larger flaw in another.

Some day . . .

I tend to be clingy, but that depended on the guy. The less a guy was interested in me and the less attention he gave me, the clingier I got. The more healthy the relationship was, the more healthy I acted.

I am married and I have these clingy episodes now, as well as episodes where I'm too invested in my interests and it breaks my heart to know I'm hurting my husband.