Why do NTs scream at the t.v. during football?

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The only thing I can figure is that they scream at the TV for the same reason I scream sometimes... they're frustrated about something they can't change, and the emotions build up and have to come out somehow!

I hate it when I hear my brother watching football or rugby. I hear "come on... come on... come on..."

silence....

"YESSS!! !! ! AAAHHHHH!! !! !!"

*dies of heart attack*

I just reread the original post, then my post, and I didn't sound very understanding, and I wanted to correct that. Well, I wanted to clarify. Sometimes it bothers me too, really bad. I have had talks with my husband about this. I know I sound like I don't mind and I'm into it and all but that's just how I've taught myself to act. Key word, act. Sometimes I really do mind. Here is my suggestion about how you can handle the situation.

The biggest thing for me to remember was that I can't have things the way I want them to be all the time. I do ask my family to make certain allowances for me, and if I make some for them, it's easier for them to make them for me. It's give and take.

Read my other post over again and try to understand it from their point of view. This stuff is important to them. It's really big to them. It's like their special interest to them. They literally start mentally gearing up for it the day before. Sometimes longer. They go to the store and get food for it and beer. They arrange work schedules when they can, so they can be home and watch it, and sometimes home the day afterwords to recover from it. It really is important to them.

This means you need to start talking to your family about two days before game day. Write it on your calender or something so you remember. I never remember when the ball games are, except for the fact that my husband shouts out a countdown several times a day "12 days baby! TWELVE DAYS!! !! !!" You want to catch them while they are calm. Once it's started, or it's the morning of, you have no hope of reigning them in at all.

Something along the lines of "Listen, you know how I can't stand really loud noises well? I know you love the game and I'm glad you can watch it. I'm only asking if you could keep the loudness down a few decibles most of the time. Not all the time, but if you could turn it down a few notches for most of the game, I'd really appreciate it." Then you insert a bribe. "If you do that for me, I'll - insert your bribe here - for you"

Do not expect total compliance the first time. If they remember to stay quieter for the first quarter, that's a great start for you! Expect them to get really loud at tense moments during the game or during spectacular or unexpected plays. But, if they stay quieter overall, instead of shouting at every single play, then thats a good beginning.

NT's like positive reinforcement too. Even in ways that we give it like "Thank you for being quieter. I felt much better. I'm glad your team won/sorry your team lost" is helpful for them. If they push you to root for their team, simply say "I'm Switzerland. I'm neutral. If you have a skiing team, maybe" and leave it at that.

Don't expect total compliance or ever a normal sound level during a game. But you have every right to ask them to tone it down SOME, so you can hear your loud music without their rabid screaming over it. Constantly. It truly would be unfair to ask them not to ever get really loud at all. This is, after all, their special interest. They are extremely caught up in it at that time. Your goal is to get them to tone it down.

Most of them know they get loud. REALLY loud. The loudness somehow shows team spirit to them. Being loud on purpose is part of it to them, so don't expect them to give that up totally. Asking them to respect your preferences re; noise, but not asking for them to not do their yelling, is a compromise.

Please let me know how it turns out. If that doesn't work, I can think some more and maybe come up with something.

Frances

Very loud and unexpected sounds are horribly painful. They makes me cringe and I get really angry.
I don't understand why do they need to shout that loud. I hate to be in such kind of environment.

I also don't understand why they bash and boo the other teams, this is very degrading and mean in my opinion. Everybody should be supported whether its your team or the opposite team.

By football, you mean the sport where the players play a continuos 90 minutes, right? Or do you mean football as America sees it (American Football) with a four quarter time limit?

My dad used to yell like that. He yelled even more when I hid all the batteries in the remote...