Does anyone else not 'get' why most people like kids so much

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Yeah that seems to be pretty common once you've had children.... I mean before having children, people either enjoy babysitting and basically melt at the sight of a baby or are completely awkward with kids, or think children in general are mean , and then once you've had your own, most people (not all, but most) fall in line.
I don't think it's socially acceptable to say so, but I adore my children, and since the day my first was born, I've had a hard time with all other kids.
I used to be the "babysitter type", loved all of them. Now? I can't seem to even LIKE any other kid. Some are bearable , some are mean spirited little s**ts, but I'm never going to get as interested in a child that is not my own as I did before having them....
ETA: teenagers are worse than kids in my opinion though. Once they get that hormone-overdose induced psychosis and lose all reasonning skills I can't be around them at all.

Last edited by ediself on 26 Nov 2011, 8:49 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Your not alone I dont like kids either.

I like kids but only family kids. I like all my younger cousins and my nephews and nieces.

Evolution. Preservation of species. Most people are genetically coded to want, protect and like kids so Homo Sapiens won't die out (which actually would be good for the planet, but that's another story..) Some are not. I don't like kids either. I'm 44 years old and I never wanted kids either. They tire, irritate me and wear me out.

I love children and I enjoy spending time with them.

Kids just piss me off. They're cute for the first five minutes, but they quickly start to irritate me.

What I hate even more, though, is parents (and other adults in general) who let kids get away with murder because "they're just kids, they don't know any better." Umm, isn't it your job to teach them better?

You're not alone. There have been times that I wanted kids of my own [in the future] but the truth is that even the best behaved children have terrible moments and I just cannot deal with that at all. It's hard enough to deal with competent adults' rare drama.

I love my son. I even want another one but it's too soon. I'm going to be happy with the one I have now.

Whoa, no half-assed measures for you, huh? And I thought I hated kids.

"I hate children. I'm glad I was never one of them." -the headteacher from Matilda

That never made sense when I was a kid. Now I realize I probably took it too literal. She probably meant she was not like the other kids, she didn't act like them and she was very well behaved and obedient When she said they take forever to grow up, she probably meant they take a while to learn responsibilities and how to behave in public.

I used to think she meant she was never a kid so I always thought she was stupid and too arrogant to know she was a kid once or how else did she come into this world? You have to be a baby first and then you grow into a toddler and older child to teen and then adult.

That is what she meant, but that's why it's funny, because it makes no sense and it shows how stupid she is.

Oh so I was right the first time and I didn't know it was supposed to be funny. I was always confused until my mother explained how some kids never get to be kids and told me how that is possible so I thought maybe that is what she meant.

I'm hardly ever around kids, but they don't usually bother me. That is, as long as they're under the age where they start worrying about being 'cool' and are snotty about 'social rank' (even though they know anything of the world yet -- I hate teenagers).

But as far as the younger ones, they're often fascinated by simple things which is something I can appreciate (hey, being simple-minded isn't all bad). And they have true enthusiasm. Sort of like animals, I guess -- they don't fake anything; it's all authentic.

I don't get the obsession they have as just a small human and not as capable/well behaved Animals are better and have fur generally.

However in just a few weeks I went from child hater to announcing overnight to a surprised husband that maybe we want some. I started reading excessively (true aspie) and found it is apparently not as simple as it would first appear with kits and tests and better ways to improve chances. I then completely disregarded this (aspie!)

I started to feel that if I had kids actually I would want a particular age difference and couldn't imagine being much older and coping with the stress of a new baby. This is my Biological clock as I am now in my 30s.

My husband says it is something about wanting to replace yourselves e.g. people often have 2 kids in the UK. I have since realised it is acceptable to like kid's things (e.g. films, cool books with sensory things and cute pictures) if you have kids. I've always liked miniature things and just find small clothes and animals really cute as the same but smaller.

I don't like other people's kids, someone will have a baby and everyone will coo over it and be all "OMG he/she is so adorable" and then if someone asks if I want to hold it I'm like no thanks and they look at me like I'm crazy.

When we had our daughter we were very specific about people not talking down to her, they were to treat her as they would an adult, no baby talk and as such she is alot more mature then other kids. Don't get me wrong she can still be a pain in the butt who makes me want to tear my hair out she's so irritating but you can also have an interesting conversation with her. She's very intelligent and always knows when we are talking about stuff we don't want her to know (we'll use words she's not overly familiar with), So for example when discussing gifts for her we'll use long winded words, like she wanted this walking cat toy so I would say stuff to my husband along the lines of "Oh amazon have that mobile feline for X amount, shall we get it there?". she knows when I'm doing this and will say "mummy can you please not use words that I'm not use to, are you talking about presents again?".

I do have very little patience for kids, yesterday (at a local christmas fair) I almost screamed at a 3 year old to talk properly because she was freaking me out with her freshly painted nails. She kept edging closer and closer to me muttering something about opening the huge chocolate bar my daughter had just won in a raffle. I found her lack of vocabulary irritating and had to get her sister to translate and I was on the verge of telling the kid to get lost but kept it together and told her she was very rude for demanding some of my daughter's chocolate and if she's so hungry she should go and ask her own mother to feed her.

I think that's one major thing for me with kids, they are so rude and they know they can get away with it because they are 'just kids' We've brought our daughter up to be polite, use manners and never demand something, as a result other people are always shocked by how polite she is and I always think she's not shockingly polite it's just their kids are so damn rude and obnoxious wheras she's not like that(not with other people anyway, like I said she has her moments).

It also annoys me when adults encourage children to be rude or naughty or to disregard things they've been taught. 2 examples, first is my niece she will go up to my father and ask him for some purple money (to those outside the UK that would be a £20 note), he might give her £2 as pocket money and she will look disgusted and say it's not purple so she doesn't want it. This behaviour is due to her mother teaching her to act like that, it's not cute or funny it's downright rude. My daughter would be ecstatic to get any amount of pocket money, she places no value on money, she understands you have to save to get what you want and she would be just as happy to receive 2 pence as she would 2 pounds. My father made a real point of this one summer when he gave my niece £5 and my daughter £20 stating that my niece would not get any 'purple money' until she learned to be polite and use manners etc (because she never once said please or thank you wheras my daughter does).

Second example came in the form of santa at the christmas fair yesterday, my daughter and her best friend followed him around asking him questions. I found out later on that my daughter was asking him why he lied to children about who he was and gave them false hope about presents (I admit I laughed my butt off about that) wheras her friend was asking what the real santa would be bringing her that christmas because he didn't bring her all the stuff from her list last year. Anyway this guy went outside for a smoke and asked the kids if they wanted to go too to see his (non existent) reindeer. He meant no harm and was just trying to entertain them but it's the fact that he was encouraging them to break a basic rule of not following a stranger.