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Have got a result from the Doctor?

I don't know if I have AS or not (not getting a Dx). I have told few people. The ones I have I think it was best when I said I have a development disorder which means I do this ...... (or something like that). I have found people cannot handle an "autism spectrum".

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Well I'm going to one of the top psychs in the state, though since I've read so much about AS and talked to quite a few people on here and such I don't really NEED the diagnosis, I'm just curious.

I know I've always been different, I've even started remember so many aspects of my childhood that were "blocked out" which I believe is because I was in such denial of what I am.

Meaning I'm not using AS to define me, it simply helped me GREATLY to know people were dealing with the same problems as me, the fact that I've been this way with people since childhood, and only learnt how to relate, how to care, and how to love people, intellectually, and told myself that was what everyone did, kinda shows me exactly what it is.

The way my dad is too, and some very lengthy conversations with my mum kind of proved my self-diagnosis correct, but how that stands in relation to what others think is not my choice.

Far from being an expert, I think an AS dx is a bit weird. If you have problems and symptoms, you have AS. If you have the same symptoms but because your environnment is such you have no (or less) problems, you don't have AS.

Still its nice to know others are dealing with the same things as me, though in my 40's now and married, I am glad I don't have to worry about dating etc.

Hmmn I get what you mean...


I've always been this way, even as a kid I used to simply love building things, and reading alone more than anything else.

Also the anger problems I've always had were never questioned or even worried about by my parents, they just assumed it was "middle child syndrome" and that I "thought too much"

I know its AS, certain things are just too obvious, especially because the problems have always been present... I was still unsure a week or two ago, but what convinced me, was when I accepted what I am, and started to take steps to actually do what I need to do, everything is working out for the better, the way I am is not miraculously changing, I'm just learning now how to relate it to other people in my own way.

I guess what stopped my parents ever doing anything about it, is my dad is exactly the same way, they blamed it on alcohol, on the early death of his mum, and many other things, but since I started accepting who I am, I've even been able to help him, I've even been able to show him things about himself he never knew.

I think if you KNOW you have AS, you definately have AS, if you're unsure, don't prove it to yourself through convincing yourself, stick to facts and you will know..

Now that I'm sure it doesn't mean too much to me, except that I can stop thinking I'm a total as*hole moron for losing the plot and having tantrums all my life, I blame it on myself for blaming everyone else in my younger years, but I couldn't do anything else..

As a kid I wanted to be alone, as I got older I thought I "should" have friends, but ultimately just wanted to create, occasionally socialise in extremes, and do what I do, and therefore continually sabotaged my friendships.

The doctors said it was ADHD, then OCD, then social anxiety disorder..

Then she decided I had advanced cognitive development, but the emotional mind of a 3 year old..

Give her a bit more information on early childhood etc, and you have aspergers.

Hey Scintillate

I'm glad you got rid of that girlfriend. Reading about how she treated you makes me appreciate being forced to go without sex, it could be worse.

Good luck with the docs. Me, I avoid them. Can't see the point in trying to manipulate them into giving me a correct diagnosis and telling me something I already know, but you ain't me, so I wish you the best.

Too right dude, I think it'd be very easy for me to con them into giving me the diagnosis, but I simply wanna be honest and truthful, mainly for my mums sake, in her mind the doctors word is law.



My ex told me today she's pregnant, and she is keeping it, I said I will help her in any way I can, and I will love my offspring (of course) in the ways I can. But she continues to tell me to change to something I'm not, I can not and will not bring up a child into a hateful, spiteful relationship. I will not bring a child into a world where one parent is pretending to please the other.

I don't even want kids at all!

I don't know whats better, to be a part of the childs life, or to completely cut myself out and only help her out with money etc. No matter what she understands about me, this ex has serious emotional issues, and for some reason she wants to bring up a child into that environment..

Don't be offended ladies, but I think she's doing it to get me back, she thinks if she's having this child, I have to marry her, I have to be with her, but isnt it worse to force a family situation?

The child will most likely have my sort of senstitivy, if he/she is anything like me as a child, he/she will be very sensitive, very angry, and very different, and that sort of child will die in at atmosphere of fighting and depression..

Argh I know so many things, I can help so many people, but this one thing I don't have a clue what to do!

Rips me apart to hear that, bro; I wish you the best. I never wanted kids until I had them, then I discovered I was fascinated and crazy about them.

The rest is a story best forgotten, with nothing to be learned. I hope you manage to do better than I did.