Feeling creeped out by "friendly" people

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What she did was not correct. You had every right to state your limits and she shouldn't act offended. If it were the other way around and a female didn't like what you were doing or being overly touchy, wouldn't that be considered harassment?

The situation was muddled because it was a women only environment - a music festival - in which I eventually heard, more than once, that there was denial that women sometimes do to each other the same things men do to women. I wasn't the only one affected, though I'm the only one who had that problem with that particular woman. But really, when I was at a friend's house, and it was his mother trying to touch my hair, it was the same issue of not wanting to be touched by someone who seemed to think her interest in doing so should supersede my opposition to it. The reason behind her interest was simply different.

I do believe you're right, however, that the reaction would be quite different if I were the one insisting on touching an unwilling person, whatever the reason. The difference comes, I think, from status. I'm not anybody's sweet old or well respected mother, nor am I in a position of authority or prestige that would make me be believed about my innocence, make someone who complained look like they were making it up or blowing things out of proportion for some reason, intimidate anyone into keeping silent, or make some hierarchy have an interest in protecting me (because of their reputation or because I had friends in high places).

Being gay, and having been out since a time when it was acceptable to think gay = child molester, I'm particularly sensitive about respecting other people's personal space and body rights. But I would want to do that anyway, just because I know how enduring something unwanted feels.

It depends on why they are being friendly. If it's to gain my confidence so they can pull something then I can do without their friendliness. One thing I dislike more than friendliness is rudeness so I would rather people be nice and smiley than rude.

Michelle Duggar smiles and appears overly happy all the time because some Christian sects believe something in Bible about being a Christian means having a joyous heart all the time. She is a devout Christian. Such believers believe if you are a true Christian and believe in God's will and Jesus coming to earth to redeem humanity then you are always happy and never sorrowful or sad.

Personally, the reason I dislike overly friendly people is because they always want to talk and touch, not necessarily in a sexual way. They get right up in my face, look at me, ask me questions, and often touch my arm or some part of me. Just because some people like that I think friendly people assume everybody likes that.

Every time I think of the overly kind, touch-your-shoulder-or-thigh, gently smiling person, I think of middle-aged old men who are child rapists. Sort of like some of the men on the show "To Catch A Predator".

It's not the friendly people who creep me out. It's the people who are nasty and unfriendly who give me the creeps.

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Creepy smiley people who call you "sweetie" and shriek in your face at random times. I've been known to take an embarassingly startled step back when a cheerleader-type girl shrieked in joy right in my face in high school.
edit: oh wow sorry about the size of the pic...... it's even creepier distorted this way......

I'm afraid They look like clowns. But clowns are less creepier, cuz we know they are clowns

one thing i have noticed to be a good indicator of true character is stroking people the wrong way. Everyone will be ''nice'' if they get everything the way they want, but if it seems like you are working against them they will reveal their true nature if they are not the best at the act they put on. I mean the moment you make a statement that nobody else wil even though its the truth, and you tell this person so they can become better because of it. But what happens is right that second their face shifts into a total different person. Its like a stare that says i want to kill you, once i have seen such a response i know whats up. A reasonable person would consider it good feedback and not respond emotional.

ediself, I don't know who these people are, but the pic looks like a continuum. From left to right, they get progressively scarier. Check out the eyelashes on that last one!

readingbetweenlines, You're right that autism had already been mentioned to the lady by the OP, though I don't know what the time frame was regarding any gap between when it was mentioned and when the touch occurred. It's true that many people might not realize that autism often includes issues with being touched. Also, some may think it's just an issue of getting used to it and that they're helping by being nice people who are nice about how they do it.

I see what you're saying in your clarifying post. I wonder what the relative frequency is amongst folks on the spectrum vs. NTs in getting freaked out by over-friendliness, as opposed to intensity. I suppose some people aren't bothered by it at all. After all, NTs are not all alike. Do you think you're particularly sensitive, as NTs go?

Baring teeth is a sign of aggression in animals and I've never really understood why humans do it. It doesn't feel natural to me to smile showing my teeth.

Guilty dog

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Angry dog

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wWukihVp3fQ[/youtube]

Angry cat

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Fake smiling makes you miserable
Pretending to be happy can actually make you more miserable - especially if you're a woman, according to a new study.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/scie ... rable.html

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRGE46VQ ... ure=relmfu

Eye contact and smiling makes a person seem more distrustful to me. I guess I'm not truely a human. I always felt I should have been born a cat or a meerkat anyway.