NT's thinking your're Gay when your're not

Post Reply New Topic

I still get that fairly often, despite that I've been married (to a woman, and I'm a man) for over 9 years! Most of the time it's ignoranuses who think anyone that likes electronic music is gay.

It's happened from time to time., but why should I worry what other people think?

Back in the 80's when that Miami Vice look was so popular for men, I was just smitten with the look itself. I did not like it on men, I wanted to wear it! So, I did. I was also coming out of a punk phase and had the short spikey hair and long rat tail. I had a job that made carrying a purse very difficult so I carried a wallet, except during certain times of the month. I wore makeup and did my nails, but people constantly assumed I was a lesbian.

Odddly enough, people never assumed that when I just wore the standard unisex Levi's 501 button fly jeans and a t-shirt or polo shirt and tennis shoes. It was only when I dressed up in the pastel jackets and shirts that people assumed that. Odd, huh?

Well, maybe I did buy them in the men's department, but they didn't sell them in ladies!

_________________
I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

It happens to me constantly, and it frustrated me all through school particularly. The odd thing is, that no Gay people ever thought I was Gay. It was ONLY NT straight men who decided they somehow figured that. I have always worn gender-correct clothes, and always been into male hobbies and interests (cars, motorcycles, etc.), and yet I have straight friends who never were accused of being Gay, but who's hobby is cooking. Luckily I grew up in an area where there wasn't much violence or hatred against Gay people, or I'd have been in trouble, I guess.

I still have no idea why anyone would think I was Gay, when I never expressed any interest in other men, and it boggles my mind as to why any straight man would even think about another man's sexual interests in the first place. I guess it's just human nature. It's almost gratifying when I find old classmates on Facebook, and they act astonished that I'm married to a female. Isn't that a big fat surprise! . Just for the record, I'm usually more comfortable around Gay men that straight, when in a group. Somehow I don't need to keep my guard up as much, if that makes any sense.

The only thing I can come up with among us as Aspies and High-Functioning Autistics, might be the absence of body language. I guess NT males give off certain body language that indicates sexual preference, as they say Gay men can spot a fellow Gay man a mile away when NTs can't, and vice-versa.

Charles

Heh, this has happened to me. My classmates asked me if I was a lesbian. I figured out the problem: my body language was pretty (stereotypically) masculine. I feminized my body language, and so far, have not been mistaken for a lesbian.

Heh, happened to me since junior high and continues to this day. It doesn't bother me much what others are saying as much as it did before. But, it might be a problem if it diminishes prospects...

Considering ''aspie vibe'' there sure is something like that. I mean, half of our problems wouldn't be so prominent if we wouldn't be recognized as strange

I worked in a call center once. As a girl it was the first time I ever wondered about being raped by another girl. About 4 girls asked me if I was gay in the same day. I have a bunch of homosexual friends but these girls were out for the kill lol. It's kind of funny now that I look back on it but it's still disappointing to be asked out by more girls than guys. But at the same time I don't want a normal guy per se. So I guess it's worth the wait for those that like girls because they're different.

Yes. It happened to me so often and basically with ANYONE who I consider a friend today. I never did feel offended by it, if I was homosexual, I would not hide it or anything, but I never really understood why that is. I mean, I do get along with women ALOT better than with men, and I rarely engage into typical "men's talk" about women, sex and all that, because I feel uncomfortable talking about such subjects (both because of my lack of experience and the fact that I simply do not care). However, I know alot (well... relative to the fact that I do not know many people in general) people who are like that, but no one ever openly thought they were gay. It just cannot figure it out, it has to be a combination of the above and maybe my rather sophisticated way of speaking, the way I dress, move and act, and maybe the fact that no one ever saw me "making a move" on a girl or woman.

I'm a traight guy but i sometimes feel like a lesbian. I read somewhere its common with aspeger to feel like they belong to the wrong gender

This used to happen in my school days however nowadays it doesn't happen anymore.

People have been saying that about me for years (& this is a backward town so it's an insult here, unfortunately). I'm not but I've always thought it was stupid. It's because I was alone. Don't they realize that if got along with people and was gay I'd have a girlfriend? duh.