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28 Dec 2011, 4:10 am

I have always called mine "mom" and "dad" and still do. I rarely said mommy or mother. I didn't say papa or father either. I only said "daddy" to greet him when he come home.



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28 Dec 2011, 5:34 am

I don't use them because they imply more affection than I feel.


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28 Dec 2011, 9:53 am

When I was younger (Like around 5 years old) I called my mother "mommy" and called my father "daddy".

But today, never called my parents mommy or daddy nor by their name, If I have to communicate with them about something, I just go and just straight talk to them.

Same goes for people at work.

I do agree that using certain words feels awkward.



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28 Dec 2011, 2:01 pm

Jory wrote:
There are certain words I never use. It's not that I choose not to say them, it's just that it makes me uncomfortable to say them, and I realize that there's no rational reason why. I never call my parents mom or dad, and I rarely call people by name. I also find it very difficult to say thank you or thanks, which makes me afraid that people will think I'm inconsiderate. It's weird, it's just like a total block, like it's not even an option for me to say these words. Kind of hard to understand if you don't actually experience it yourself.


This me exactly! I always thought it was just me; I had no idea that this was common for aspies. It feels better to know that there's a reason.



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28 Dec 2011, 4:34 pm

I always say my mom, my dad, or my parents, if I'm talking about them. If I'm talking to them, I do not specify that, but assume that they know who I'm talking to.

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Jory wrote:
There are certain words I never use. It's not that I choose not to say them, it's just that it makes me uncomfortable to say them, and I realize that there's no rational reason why. I never call my parents mom or dad, and I rarely call people by name. I also find it very difficult to say thank you or thanks, which makes me afraid that people will think I'm inconsiderate. It's weird, it's just like a total block, like it's not even an option for me to say these words. Kind of hard to understand if you don't actually experience it yourself.


This me exactly! I always thought it was just me; I had no idea that this was common for aspies. It feels better to know that there's a reason.


Yup. I've researched this outside of the context of AS, and I have found very little. It's most likely an aspie trait.


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28 Dec 2011, 4:53 pm

I say ''mum'' and ''dad'' and ''nan'' and ''grandad''. I don't say ''aunt'' or ''uncle'', but not many people do.


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28 Dec 2011, 6:18 pm

I've only tried calling my mum by her real name once. She told me that it was disrespectful, so I never did it again. I've tried calling her Mummy-O when Spaghetti-Os were popular in Canada and I got in trouble for that as well.


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28 Dec 2011, 6:20 pm

I know a man like that who lives in England who always calls his parents by their first names. His parents claim he is autistic, he believes there is nothing wrong with him (but how he has escaped a good shoeing for some of the insane hateful garbage he is spoken over the years I don't know) and I think he should be a permanent resident of a mental asylum.



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28 Dec 2011, 11:39 pm

I refer to my parents as Ma and Da, but never mom, dad, mother, or father.



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29 Dec 2011, 12:44 am

"Mama" and "Daddy".
I suppose I emulated my mother, as those were the terms for her parents.
They also came to call each other that, when referring to the other in conversation with me.

Ex:
Mama: "Go back to the office and tell Daddy SNL is on." (referring to my father)


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29 Dec 2011, 1:05 am

When I was young I referred to my mom and my dad by their respective first names. My mom didn't have a problem with that, but it bothered my dad very much.

When my younger sister started talking she referred to them as "mom" and "dad", and eventually I changed and started referring to them as "mom" and "dad".



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29 Dec 2011, 3:15 am

When I was younger I couldn't call people by their nicknames. Even saying the "uncle" part in "uncle joe" would feel weird to me. I learned that this hurt their feelings so I started doing it.