When people are not there for you...

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I think I need the same thing, myself. I can certainly empathize with you.

That is the way i see it. I always knew i needed someone in my life with a brain like mine, but i tried to be friends with others anyway. Even my "closest" friends all ended up attacking me in some way, and not understanding, or not even trying to. Then i met a girl who had Hydrocephalus, and i don't know if she has aspergers as well, but she is remarkably similar to me in most ways, and it is the only "real" friendship i have ever had.

Now i just have to figure out how not to be in love with her too, so i can keep it going lol

I understand that some are just really busy, some I don't even really get to talk to for weeks or months, but generally still enjoy talking to and playing games with when we do. I suppose as long as I'm not given a reason to dislike anybody, I'm cool with them and consider them a friend.

That said, I often have a hard time confiding in anyone. I'd rather not make a big deal out of anything because I know I'd end up rejecting any sort of advice anyway, and that would only cause problems. If anything, I find it easier to talk to near complete strangers, such as on this forum, especially when able to type rather than having to verbalize it.

I am kinda with these two. As a kid I usually had one best friend at a time, once I got out of school I found that it was easier not to have a best friend.

The people I am friends with are on such a distant basis that I honestly don't have phone numbers or even know what side of town most of them live on. If friends aren't close enough to rely on then they cannot let you down. More importantly they cannot expect unreasonable things that disrupt life from you.

I only need a minimal amount of contact, and mostly it's strategic so that I have a network of people I can go to if I need to find a job, a part for my car, or a recommendation on places to go for stuff... Everything else I can get online, and even that I don't really get close to people online.

However, a lot of this is caused by the fact that I do cut people off. Generally when I get close enough to someone that disappointment over some problem triggers something inside of me that says "this relationship no longer benefits me, therefor it is poison and needs to be removed" so I just break away.