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True.. "being popular" as they call it or in a more objective sense, possessing a high rank in the "social hierarchy" is almost always obtained through manipulation of others to "prove" their "superiority". The methods are notoriously malicious.

So in general anyone whos considered "popular" is often one of the most abusive people in the school.

This is generally true, but maybe not absolutely always, and extremely rare events can have tremendous significance. It's theoretically possible for somebody worth knowing to get along well with other people. Not saying it's common.

In my experience, the people that matter are too rare to risk missing. You don't have to be aspie to be interesting.

Like another post read, hindsight is always 20/20. I've had some really confusing situations like this too, especially in school. There are a lot of good tips on this thread in my opinion that could help you figure out what this person's motives may be. However, I think if you don't see a really good reason to just not try to figure this situation out, and perhaps even if you do, that just asking her what her interest is in relation to you might be the best plan of action here. If it was me I would approach her in a private situation and just ask her in the best way I knew how. Although, it would take a lot of guts on my part.

I think she has a crush on you!

she does not seem to act sarcastic and appears to have a concerned and curious look on her face when she asks me these questions. She's not extremely popular but, of course, more poular than me. I think she has a lot of male freinds. I haven't seen anyone laughing when she does this. The thing that truly puzzles me now is that she continues with this. This began last Thursday and has been the same every day. Usually I have an unenthusiastic and uninterested reaction to her but i can't tell if she notices this. If she truly liked me wouldn't she try harder than that? She's pretty much the only girl I can remember acting like this towards me. I like the idea someone else had that maybe she's an outsider too, although I do see her laughing with a freind or two or a boy every once in a while. Or maybe she's just less outgoing than most girls.

If she's genuine, there's a strong chance that she's just as uncertain about all this as you are. If she was too smooth, slick, and skilled, I would consider that a danger sign.

I once got a fortune cookie in a chinese restaurant that said, "You can go wrong from being too skeptical as much as you can from being too trusting."

I think she want's to be friends.

Today while I was on my way to my math class, I passed by this girl who was taking a test in the hall. As I was walking by, she suddenly asked if I went to school there and what my major was. It was friendly, but annoying.

Were you expecting her to ask about european royalty in the late middle ages? No wonder aspie guys never have girlfriends.

I agree with Fraya. Take a quick look around you whenever she starts talking to you. If there always seems to be people watching her, particularly ones who you know she's friendly with, then I'd suspect she's doing it because her and her cronies think it's funny to talk to the 'weirdo'.

If there aren't - then maybe she is just genuinely outgoing and friendly. It would seem peculiar to me to just march up to someone and start chatting away like that, but who knows how NT brains work?

ok. my last question regarding the topic post, is what "groups" does she socialize with? she might be interested in getting to know you but she also might be feigning interest because you seem different and an easy target possibly. there is always the possibility that she is just bored and looking for someone to talk with.

not so sure
don't know your age/peer group

it seems that you are developing quite an obsession with this person