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Hey Nintendo, I've always enjoyed reading your posts and am very ad your here. I often struggle with replies, don't know why to say or fear going on and on. And I feel like a threadkiller too. I also aspire to post a thread that gets over 100 replies, but haven't got past 23 or so. Is that vanity? I dont know.

I don't think so. I read some of your posts but I didn'a answer only because I didn't have any opinion. Probaly I'm an undiagnosed Aspie, while my 4 yo beloved son has classic Autism. We are different, but I feel there's a link between us.

Please remember that this forum is for everyone on the spectrum and not just Asperger's. Hope you stay around nintendofan.

There are those on this forum who put a lot of effort into making sure others feel they're not welcome. I assume they do it because of their own low self-esteem issues, so they can make themselves feel superior. Ignore the pathetic morons. There are still those who appreciate you.

I hope you stay.

The above post is after repeated efforts to write in more detail, so I can relate.

I too feel unwelcome here, but that's one of the reasons I stay.

And I can totally relate to this I often rewrite my posts a dozen times before hitting the submit button and then edit them several times, especially when I'm trying to write something nice or emotional. I always feel like I'm doing it wrong.

@nintendofan: I think Aimless found the perfect words, so I'll simply repeat them. I also hope you stay around

It's hard to know what everybody has. You have to click on everyone's profile to check... no one does this. Would be better if it was publicly displayed I think.

I know what you mean; I have just read through this thread and want to say something but I'm not sure what as so often happens. This post has taken me about half an hour to write, in the meantime other people have posted
Right, I will attempt to give my opinion.
nintendofan I hope you don't leave on the basis that you think other people want you to leave. I too don't feel very welcome but think it may be a step back personally if I did (as it took so much for me to start posting) If you want to be here then I encourage you to stay

I made this thread a long time ago. The overwhelming majority of people on the site probably feel just like you do. Maybe it might help to know.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postxf137369-0-90.html

there are many threads that died after my posting in them, but i do not think they died because of me. i think they would have died anyway, and i was the last person to say anything in them.

the amount of threads that i have posted in that continued to live are many more than the the threads that died. i have posted many things, and some things i posted were at the end of the threads life, but i do not see it as a general rule. it is good to see the whole picture and not focus on only the part that you are unhappy with.


i do not have good conversational skills, but for me it is not very important to be able to tell others so they can tell me i am correct in thinking as i do.

people are so different and there is no accounting for taste, and if 100% of people do not understand what i say, then i do not think i said invalid things.

if 100% of people who respond do not agree with what i say, likewise i can not change what i think and i will not fake anything for anyone no matter what.

my belief is that i know what i say, and what i say is valid in my mind, and it is complete at the instant i think it, and i will never alter it to appeal to others who want other things than me.

being true and real may be hard and lonely, but it is like a rock that is not eroded by time and weather, and when everything else is blown away by the sands of time, your solidarity still stands as a monolith in eternal time. i know we die and stuff, but i will always be me until i die, and no one can erode me.

believe what you were born to think. do not believe what you are told to think.

i think i am too tired to continue saying stuff on the forum because my neurons are feeble due to the lack of vital electricity in them. good night.

I feel like that, too. Despite many members here posting about difficulties I relate to, I still feel like an outsider here. It is probably helped by the fact that most of my posts consists of very lame jokes. Then again, I feel like that in real life, too (sometimes, even the lame jokes are included).

Awwwe I consider myself one of the lower functioning people on here too. I'm emotionally/psychologically lower functioning, I also have ADHD, and tons of LDs. People do read your posts artrat I think a lot of people like us want to respond to each others posts but we have really low self esteem. I've wanted to post replies to yours but I'm not always on the ball spelling wise so I back out. The biggest reason is that I feel very similarly to you. So I feel as if I'd just be redundant or that I might be annoying somehow. Maybe the popular people on here don't have the same kind emotional difficulties or LDs getting in the way of their ability to post. I personally have extremely low self esteem. It's so low in fact that it actually significantly impairs my ability to function. I have very similar PTSD related symptoms which are the reason for my irreparably low self esteem. I can't bring myself to do things sometimes because I don't feel I'm good enough. I grew up being the child with the lowest marks in her class, bullied by both teachers and students. There are people on here who don't have severe emotional problems in addition to their AS so they don't always understand or can reply to the emotionally charged posts people with more difficulties like us post. It's not about popularity at all. Some people might even be scared of saying the wrong thing.

A lot of times I don't post anything because the last person to post said what I wanted to say better than I could say it. It's not a thread killer thing. Just kind of like, That's the best comment ever. I "bow" to the last poster.
Nintendofan, B9, Angel_Ryan, I never think of anyone as lower or higher functioning. Seriously, It never even crossed my mind. I like everybody's posts except those that are nasty or rude on purpose. I come across wrong all the time. I wish I were more like the posters who take their time and think about what they say before they hit the submit button. Too often I hit submit and then realize I don't think I said what I meant to say. (Then I worry about it and wonder what to do about it and how I could change it or what if I hurt someone's feelings, and on and on...) Then I'm too confused to change anything.

See perfect example here...I'm rambling. What I mean to say is please stick around.

I like that there are people on different levels of the spectrum here. I'm in between AS and autism apparently. You are very welcome here