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30 Jan 2012, 9:54 am

izzeme wrote:
however, one thing that i'd recommend very strongly: make sure your friend doesn't know/is able to find out, your username on here, that would create some awkward situations, and you'd feel less free to speak your mind


That's my main reason for saying 'NO'.



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30 Jan 2012, 1:55 pm

I vote yes too. And I did for my friend, but that was because she has a troubled child she adopted. Didn't really say my alias here..

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30 Jan 2012, 1:57 pm

Matt62 wrote:
I vote yes too. And I did for my friend, but that was because she has a troubled child she adopted. Didn't really say my alias here.


I think if you're a very regular poster with a certain distinctive style, it is probably extremely easy to work identify who that person is in real life if they know them well (due to interests and opinions, etc). Even easier if you can narrow it down through location.



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30 Jan 2012, 7:37 pm

izzeme wrote:
i'm not sure, but under certain circomstances, it might be a good idea.
these forums have several NTs on them, and having them is of mutual benefit; threads can get answers from an NT vieuwpoint, and NTs can get a glimpse of our world.
for that reason, i have considered getting some of my own friends on these forums, i have a few that are quite interested in the world of the aspergers.

however, one thing that i'd recommend very strongly: make sure your friend doesn't know/is able to find out, your username on here, that would create some awkward situations, and you'd feel less free to speak your mind

This is one of the main advantages, the bridge building. And izzeme also states one of the main disadvantages, that you might feel less free to speak your mind.

Maybe if your friend had the maturity where if they suspected who you were, they wouldn't ask, wouldn't make a big deal about it, wouldn't overly read that poster, nor entirely avoid, instead just treat that poster like any other regular poster. But not everyone has that maturity, and that's just the fact of the matter.

So, it needs to be your personal judgment call.



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30 Jan 2012, 7:50 pm

AardvarkGoodSwimmer wrote:
izzeme wrote:
i'm not sure, but under certain circomstances, it might be a good idea.
these forums have several NTs on them, and having them is of mutual benefit; threads can get answers from an NT vieuwpoint, and NTs can get a glimpse of our world.
for that reason, i have considered getting some of my own friends on these forums, i have a few that are quite interested in the world of the aspergers.

however, one thing that i'd recommend very strongly: make sure your friend doesn't know/is able to find out, your username on here, that would create some awkward situations, and you'd feel less free to speak your mind

This is one of the main advantages, the bridge building. And izzeme also states one of the main disadvantages, that you might feel less free to speak your mind.

Maybe if your friend had the maturity where if they suspected who you were, they wouldn't ask, wouldn't make a big deal about, wouldn't overly read that poster, nor entirely avoid, instead just treat that poster like any other regular poster. And not everyone has that maturity.


They could always see this thread.


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30 Jan 2012, 9:31 pm

she probably wouldn't care.



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31 Jan 2012, 6:31 pm

Like others I agree you should not divulge your username to her.

I wouldn't perhaps point her to this site specifically - if she's interested she'll find it herself. That's how I got here.


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31 Jan 2012, 6:39 pm

readingbetweenlines wrote:
Like others I agree you should not divulge your username to her.


She may be able to easily work it out though... in which case, she'll probably say "you're X, right?" ;)

And then it all goes to hell.



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31 Jan 2012, 10:24 pm

I agree with Tequilla.
Don't let her know your username.
No friends of mine know that I use the Polish name Czeslaw_Kowalski
I only use this name in WrongPlanet,incel support and other similar sites.
They know that I have some Slavic usernames,such as Stanislaw Nowak,
but I never tell them I have a username called Czeslaw Kowalski.



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31 Jan 2012, 11:23 pm

I don't think its a bad idea, I think its a great idea. Would help bridge the gap between NTs and aspies.