Ever deliberately ignored non-verbal messages?

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I usually don't try to notice them. I have much more chance of knowing what a person means by listening carefully to their words. When I pay attention to the non-verbals too, things get clogged up and I miss a lot more. I'm better off concentrating on what I'm best at getting information from.

i have noticed that a lot of extrovert NT's tend to do the same, i don't know if they are deliberately ignoring the many non-verbal cues given out or not but have noticed it. for ex., a really social person would have decided something and will come up to you and before you can respond verbally, even though your hesitation should hint at something, the person decides for you and gets you along for a plan that you might not agree with or even need more time to decide on, and later if you opt out cause you finally don't want any of it the person in question is puzzled as to why you can be so erratic. actually i have noticed this a lot among many other usually social people, its like they don't pay attention to any signs and later on get angry that you don't agree with their plan, or idea of how things are supposed to be moving on, etc..,.

i'm just too slow to respond in real time to any social interactions. even if i could decipher body language, it would take me too long to respond appropriately. so i've probably long given the "uncanny valley" vibes to scare people away from me.

Yeah...I hear you...it seems to be an "all-or-nothing" struggle to be normal in terms of quality AND timeliness of response to non-verbals.
I had to look up the term "uncanny valley", it's actually very interesting, from what I saw on Wikipedia...but kind of unsettling too, if people regard Aspies as some sort of robot and get repulsed by them. Here's the quote I got:

This area of repulsive response aroused by a robot with appearance and motion between a "barely human" and "fully human" entity is called the uncanny valley. The name captures the idea that an almost human-looking robot will seem overly "strange" to a human being, will produce a feeling of uncanniness, and will thus fail to evoke the empathic response required for productive human-robot interaction. [Source: Wikipedia]

the only time I ignore non-verbal messages is when it;s coming from the opposite sex, but that probably isn't my aapergers it's me not having any time for that s**t.