Do you think Online friends = Friends?

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I don't see how online friends are any less friends than real life friends except that it's easier for them to deceive or ditch you which they can do in real life too.

It sounds like you need to question the quality of the type of people you are befriending and try to find where their sense of loyalty lies. A few questions you can ask yourself are

Is the friendship mutually beneficial to both of us?
Do they have a sense of loyalty and value?
Is their any reason for the friendship other than a mutual interest, i.e, work, gaming, sports or do you genuinely enjoy each others company?

It depends on the friend. I've had online friends be better than my IRL friends sometimes. Talk to me on the phone when I had no computer, etc. Also, occasionally with my online friends, if we have something the other person needs, we'll mail it, usually just for shipping cost or sometimes free. Like my friend needed a battery charger, I had a spare, so I mailed it to him. This friend, I talk to almost everyday, and I've known him since 2005. However, now I have very few online friends, I only have about 5 I talk to on any consistent basis. It's one of those things where, 200 people on the buddylist, but only 15ish you talk to regularly, now it's dropped to 5 or less.

Online friends are like IRL friends, you have real friends like I've described, where you might as well just be best IRL friends, then people you just talk to about stupid stuff occasionally, then people who ignore you/dislike you but are too passive aggressive to actually tell you. But yeah, in my case, a few of my internet friends have been as real or moreso real friends than my "real" friends.

Now, it's weird, though, as I've realized my social problems apply to online, too, so now I don't seek out online friendship as much anymore. My problem in both of them is, I'm quite outgoing, but still a social idiot, so my outgoingness actually makes things worse than if I was quiet and shy, works the same online, I had one online friend block me, I saw him on a different screen name, was like "hey, why'd you block me?" and he said I talked too much about myself. So yeah...

Yes, because you know they like who you are and not how they look because they can't see you. ^_^
I think my online friendships are more genuine, everyone in real life just wants sex with this stupid body.
Although I get social anxiety online only, which is backwards. >.>

Simple answer: Yes. More complicated answer: Yes, I believe so, but I still try to make more IRL friends nowadays because I realise that expectation.

Yes.

My online friend has never treated me like some kind of second-class human.
Every. Single. IRL friend I have ever had has treated me that way at some point.

I think I spaced out on your avatar for about 30 min.

I don't think friends exist.

Some of them are. Some friends are real friends, some are not, same as it is with people you know in person.

If it weren't for the internet, I would be a total loner.

Yes and No

They aren't the same, so they aren't equal.

But I think it's a wonderful new world that has both.

I do consider internet friends to be real friends.

Shouldn't I?

Yes.

They offer a different kind of friendship, one which doesn't rely on face to face contact and the issues that can arise from such situations. I have met up with a few online friends and it always went well.

This happens with the "real ones" too.

Online "friends" = friends?

No. Just no.

No, not really, just one exception.